Mediation

[Sjh3781]

So this as finely happened nearly 4 years on its time to have mediation. I was sick of empty threats and finally applied myself. The story behind the situation is my daughter is now 10, year 6 we live 25 miles away from her current school and agreed on no up-evil until year 7 and SATS are completed.
She's asked for a few day/night changes this year and the secondary school in my village. This as gone down like a lead balloon. She/we had a conversation with my mum and her Nannie and sent a text saying this to her dad (my mum as always been impartial) this didn't go as planned in the passed 11 days I've had daily mental abuse calls/texts and the latest is if I don't comply and he's doesn't like what i say in mediation he will file for full custody. I feel like everything he's thrown at me he's actually doing himself "PAS" I'm just in despair and feel that brainwashed myself what to do/say?
The needs of my daughter PreTeen who needs her mummy a little more as things are happening and I'm always the bad cop as in i talk things through and don't baby her anymore. I just need "HELP" any would be appreciated also the text was done whilst I was at work and she pressed send!

[prh47bridge]

This isn't entirely clear and I don't understand the last sentence at all.

It sounds like your daughter lives with you and wants to go to a secondary school near you. If her father has PR he has a right to a say in the decision. However, he is being unreasonable. He will not get "full custody" - putting aside that there isn't such a thing any more, a disagreement over where your daughter goes to school is not remotely enough justification for changing where she lives. As for the choice of school, if she spends most weekday nights with you he would struggle to convince the courts that she should go to a school near him that she doesn't want to go to.

Without knowing the current day/night arrangements and the proposed changes, it is impossible to say whether or not this is reasonable. You may need to compromise on this.

Go to mediation. Be prepared to compromise where necessary but stick to your guns regarding which school your daughter attends. Don't worry about his tantrums. If he takes this to court he is unlikely to get anywhere.

[Skyejuly]

Id personally refuse meditation if he is abusive. Your daughter will speak tp cafcass if it goes tp court x

[Skyejuly]

Court will agree tp her going to school closest to rp especially if child wants too

[Sjh3781]

My ex lives in our mortgaged house and 4 years on just agreeing it needs sorting. I have our daughter Friday Saturday Sunday and Tuesday evenings it's always been that way because of School. She now wants Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday evenings back to her dads for the remainder.
She herself as decided about the school being at my side of town because of its subject status "preforming Arts and dance".
She sat with my mum her Nannie and had conversations with her the text was written between them and my daughter pressed send.
It's a tough one I said I'd move back to the village she's at school now now so she can go to the feeder school and she's said no.
Mediation is my next step but honestly don't know if it's even going to be possible at the joint meeting I'm polite and we even do joint things together if needed for our daughter but enough is enough. I've started to realise how much of a bully he is with myself.
All I want is my daughter happy!

[Sjh3781]

Thanks guys for your input