Concerned with ds contact

[Justkeeepsmiling]

Im hoping someone can advise me, My ex is a phsyco, he will never admit it, but he is an evil piece of work. Lies about everything, jealous and very controlling. We have a ds8 together, i have always had concern's with his mood swings and behaviour, however, a court order was put in place so not a lot I could do about him seeing ds,started off with supervised visits in a contact centre and then slowly progressed to unsupervised contact. Has had many girlfriends over the 6 years we have been separated, all ended due to his behaviour. A situation happened a couple of years ago, which meant he had to move back in with parents, he text to say he wasnt in a good place and stopped seeing ds for a while, he text again about 10 months after contact stopped, asking to see ds, I reluctantly agreed but insisted contact to be supervised by a parent, I had loads of texts (i mean LOADS...Prob around 50...one after another) from both him and his mum saying he is a changed man, has been to councelling, sorted himself out, i still insisted supervised, so thats what happend untill about a few months ago, parents were away so had no one to supervise, wasnt with a gf at the time, Contact had been smooth so I said ok for a few hours, and thats how its been,.....Anyway, i have found out on the grapevine that he has finished with his most recent gf due to smashing her house up and being aggresive towards her, so obviously not a changed man, I am now obviously concerned for ds wellbeing when with ex, I know if i text ex and say back to supervised contact, he is going to ask why, What do I say? I have no way of proving he has done this, and he is definately going to deny it, What can I do?

[RedHelenB]

How has he been with ds unsupervised?

[Bumble1830]

@RedhelenB.hes been OK, when he has a gf he is always with her anyway, he's usually only alone with him when he's doing pick up/drop off, however, we live an hour away from each other so that always worries me (due to incidents to do with driving when we were together). I don't want to wait for something to happen before I do something about it, I just don't know what to do

[RedHelenB]

If ds is ok and old enough to tell you any worries then I would carry on as you are. Courts don't expect parents to be perfect even If there have been no instances where contact is unsupervised.