Just need a hand hold really, everything is getting very nasty and exhausting whilst my ex boyfriend tries to sue me for full custody of our baby. I'm not sure if it's just me but the whole situation is so stressful it makes me feel physically sick, this is not what I had in mind when starting a family. I was so excited and hopeful.
After a huge argument one night my boyfriend told me in not so polite terms to get out of our flat (family home, which I pay for). So I took our 4 week old son and left to go to my mum's over 200 miles away. Since then I've tried to arrange contact between them but his demands ate ridiculous, he wants our son 3 days on 4 days off shuffling him halfway across the country each time (which is not in his best interests). I get he wants to see his son and have a relationship, I don't however want him in his care alone overnight. This is due to multiple criminal convictions, mental instability, having no job or any money or means to support a child. I was willing to try and make an arrangement out of court that was in everyone's interests and safety and now he has gone fully fledged into harrassing me about his rights etc.
This was a very coercive relationship and what I've mentioned here doesn't even scratch the surface. I'm just exhausted. This isn't what I wanted at all for any of us. I'm not worried about my son being taken away, i know there is no likelihood of that, just worried about the destroying nature of a messy custody battle in the court room.
Sorry for the ramble, I just wanted some kind words or advice about how to get through this I guess. I spend every night replaying everything over and over again and getting so upset. Not a good mix when I have a little baby to look after
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Someonehelpmi · 23/04/2018 09:45
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