Yes, my grandsons father died last year from an accidental overdose and I discovered my daughter has also been taking drugs this year after a period of abstinence. I thought she was suffering depression or some other illness after her ex passed away (they had been separated for 6y) but it seems it was withdrawal. Her behaviour changed (so did my grandsons) this year so I took them and my daughters new girlfriend on holiday to cheer them up. It was while we were away that she became very aggressive and told me I would never see my grandson again. I put up with her behaviour towards me because I have mobility needs and I was terrified about getting home if she refused to help me. Unfortunately when she was increasingly aggressive toward my grandson I challenged her and then I had to turn to strangers to help me at the airport. She moved out when we got home. I've found out a lot of things since then that show she is not the person I thought she was.
This has come as a shock to me - she's gone to live with her girlfriends parents who have helped her to get a housing association house.
I have been very ill for 3 years with pernicious anaemia and I have found out that she has also taken quite a bit of money from me while I was vulnerable (due to brain fog) and that she is also paying fines from a court a fair way from where we live. She has also cut off some of her friends and changed her job. Since she left home there was fraudulent use of my credit card - she was the only other person with access to it. I trusted her implicitly and I would have given her anything she wanted. She says I'm crazy, homophobic and this is all my fault. There is much more that I have found out that has left me grieving for the daughter I thought I had.