Hi
My ex is taking me to court, over access! He has DD (2.5 years old) twice a week, I have recieved court letter to attend FHDRA.. Do I get a solicitor or represent myself?? He has put a covering letter with the court paper c100... I didn't attend mediation as I thought he was bluffing and between receiving the 1st letter from mediation solicitor and 2nd letter, Ex and my mother meet to agree on access.. which he accepts mon/Thurs afternoons...
He has filed saying I sent abusive text messages, I have been aboard twice, I only allow access when convenient by me, I refuse relationship with his son (age 11, mother number 1) and my daughter. Stoped overnight access, and something about money, that 95% I'm not with my daughter I'm at work/football/nights out/blokes and that it's non of his business who DD is left with.
I work 4days a week, 2days of them she is nursery and Ex collects on one of them days, and has her on a Monday (I work) sat early shift (1or 2 times a month) sleep over at nanny,s I get up and go and DD stays there til I finish afternoon..
He has had random over night care but I was not 100% comfortable with this, he works as a driver mon-fri (1-2am to 1-2pm) and a doorman on weekends plays football on Saturdays and takes his son to football every Sunday and only has a 1 bed flat, sleeps during the afternoon! He also has another daughter (age 6 with mother number 2) which he has not mentioned at all in the court papers as he is taking her to court also.
I stopped all access for a period of 8days as I recieved a abusive/threatening text saying it was all my fault he has lost access to daughter (age 6) it was not my doing it was his own doing, he left child with the latest new partner and went to work... message saying he is to go to town on me..
I do get maintenance money (not through CSA) I have put into account in my DD's name.i don't want his petty money
I don't hate his son but when we wer together he called me names and has big behaviour problems (due to lack of farther/mother roll models) and I don't want my DD to pick up on it all. He preposes that he will get every other weekend and 1 or 2 days in the week. Where are these 3 children from 3 different mothers to stay in a one bed flat?? And why is it he taking 2 mothers out of 3 to court!!
When I was 20 weeks pregnant we had an altercation and he man handled me out of my home. I went to the HV to check the baby and I had broken up with him, but stupidly got back with him and stuck with it for 18months.. Ex didn't take me home from hospital when DD was born, he went to work instead. Can I use all this in my defence??
I feel that the routine we have works well, and I would agree to overnight care if I could trust him and not to leave DD in the care of new partner/stranger.. He is to care for her but when we wer together looking back I was the glorified babysitter!! And had his kids every other weekend while he was at work, and mother number 2 would say she done the same.
Any advise
Thanks sarah
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Scev88 · 31/10/2017 02:25
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