Hi
I'm new here and in desperate need of advice. My ex and I have been divorced for almost 3 years now (separated for 5) and we have a 7 year old daughter together who lives with me and she sees her dad every weekend - either Friday or Saturday night sometimes both if her father wants to.
We don't have anything official in place regarding residency and he decided to move 20 miles away - all well and good.
However I've had a new partner for nearly 5 years now and we don't live together yet. There will come a time in the not too distant future that we will be moving in together and I would move in with him as he has two children from his previous marriage too - one of whom has special needs. We won't be moving any further geographically - in fact it's probably closer as the crow flies but my ex doesn't like the town we'd be moving to.
My ex husband has now started to tell me that our daughter won't be going to a school in the town where I will be moving to and she can make up her own mind who she wants to live with.
Her dad is very good at splashing the cash and will easily turn her head with promises of x, y and z so feel that on that basis alone (we all know how fickle children can be!) I fear that she will choose to live with him not understanding the ramifications.
I can't afford a prolonged legal battle as I feel that my ex is only saying these things to exert further control over me - he certainly gave our daughter no thought when he was cheating on me and gave zero thought to the consequences of family breakup if he were to be found out.
I'm trying to build a life for us but he is picking fault at every single little thing I do. My daughter seems to spend most of her time with his girlfriend anyway, which is great as she likes her but then he turns round and tries to tell me that I don't do enough on my own with my daughter as I go to visit my partner at the weekend and take my daughter if she's not with her dad - she loves going to see my partner and his children although she tells her dad she's not that bothered as she doesn't want to upset him as she knows he "hates" him - her words - not mine!
Does anyone have any advice for me - I have a constant knot in my stomach over all this and only want what's best for my daughter.
Thank you very much
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AllyBally99 · 09/10/2017 14:33
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