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What can I do legally to stop my ex picking up my son?

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PurplePenguins · 10/02/2017 19:46

My XH is on the birth certificate. Last Friday (DS birthday), he turned up at the school to give DS a present. Fortunately my cousin was there to collect him as usual. XH told the teacher who he was and then proceeded to lie and tell her I refused to let him see his son, that he wanted reports and parents meetings etc. On the way back to my cousin's, he told her what would happen if I die. On Sunday, I took DS to his father's. XH gave me a piece of cake and then asked if I liked it. I said yes and proceeded to tell me a friend made it to celebrate getting out of prison and how he wanted to go back in by killing someone. On Monday, he phoned the school and added himself to his emergency contact list. I don't know if he actually threatened me, if he's planning something or if he's messing with my head but I need to protect my DS.

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Stepparentadoptionadvice · 10/02/2017 19:57

File a prohibited Steps Order to prevent him from picking up your son.

I'd also contact the police and consider a non-molestation order. Don't go into his house or eat/drink anything he gives you

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BlackeyedSusan · 10/02/2017 23:31

report him to the police for threatening to get someone to kill you.

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PurplePenguins · 11/02/2017 08:26

I did report him to the police. It's been logged but as it wasn't a direct threat, they couldn't do anything until there has been several.

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PurplePenguins · 11/02/2017 08:38

Do I need to go to mediation to get a prohibited steps order? We went to mediation a few years ago but he's not really stuck to it. XH sees DS every Sunday, but will change to Saturday if he wants to. Says he's going out or working. He works at the same company he did when we were married and now has to work one sat/sun every four weeks. Always a Sunday and not every four weeks sometime 6-8 weeks or sometimes a fortnight gaps. He says he hasn't swapped and it is 4 weeks but I've been logging them as I thought I was going insane. He'll turn up on my doorstep (agreed in mediation he wouldn't) To see DS and makes bedtime difficult as he's not seen him XH long enough if he's been let in.
Don't want mediation again if I don't have to.

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Gwilt160981 · 11/02/2017 08:48

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PurplePenguins · 11/02/2017 09:05

I so wish I could just can't afford to. XH
reported me to SS and the SW was as scary as he'll. First meeting she had my then 12 and 14 yos believing they would be taken into care! Was sorted quickly and made a complaint to her mangers but the boys were petrified. I felt like packing up and running then too. Lottery win required 😊