Hello everyone,
I hope I've posted this in the correct section. Sorry for the long post.
Basically for some time myself and my husband have been talking about doing a joint will in the circumstance that we both pass. We have a two year old, and I am currently pregnant.
We cannot seem to decide who we want the primary guardian/carer to be. It isn't any rush, as we haven't yet got any legal companies involved. These are our options..
-my mum: she works part time, awkward hours, and I do not agree with her parenting. On benefits, and struggles a lot with money. I was never shown affection or love from her as a child. My childhood wasn't great, for a variety of reasons.
-husbands mum: works full time, has a stick up her most of the time, can tell my son is her least favourite grandchild by how she treats him, constantly diagnosing every child she knows with additional needs.
-my sister: works full time, hypochondriac, makes poor life decisions, drives stupid even when my son is in the car with her, irresponsible.
-husbands sister: works full time, mixed and unpredictable shifts, palms her son onto her mum, smokes and drinks around her son, irresponsible with money, in serious debt.
No one else is an option. I feel like we are being too picky, but we also want the best for our son. Of course we have a way we'd like to raise our children, and they will not raise them how we'd like to. I understand their safety is the most important but facts such as feeling loved, and valuable are important to me. Not being put in nursery full time, and not feeling like an inconvenience is important to me. I feel like none of the options would do that. I cannot picture who he would be more suited with, or who would make him the happiest. Obviously any of these people would be better than care! But I just don't know how we can make our decision. I have anxiety which also makes this decision harder for me!
How did you make your decision if you have already done so?
Thank you x
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Deciding who will be primary guardian/carer?
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JHmummy · 03/02/2017 15:13
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