A 2-year-old's parent's live 6 hrs apart. The child goes to nursery on a government scheme for 5 days a week. The father wants to spend a week a month visiting child, and for the mother to cancel "daycare". The mother says nursery is an important part of child's routine and does not want to cancel "nursery". They cannot agree. Any opinion?
Long term once a month for a week won't be sustainable. What's his long term plan? This should be the starting point. In a few years once this routines is established it will need changing because of school.
If the father is visiting the child where they live the routine should continue. If the child is going to the father obviously that would be more tricky, however I would argue that arrangement would not be in the best interests of the child. In effect under this suggested arrangement the child is missing out on 25% of their nursery entitlement before starting school, which could have a big impact. What does the father plan to do when the child starts school in 2 years?
If the father is reliable and there would be no penalty for cancelling daycare (losing nursery place) it would soon become part of a small child's routine to spend one week a month with his/her father. A good relationship with both parents is important, if it can be acheived.