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He married me just to have PR

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HannahBanana3 Fri 03-Feb-17 07:05:41

I started this post in "relationships" but decided to post it here too, as a suggestion of one of them...

I am going to make the story as short as possible...

We met for less than half a year when we find out we were pregnant. I was in that stage were you are absolutely in love and think that everything is wonderful when I find out and I believed he felt the same way. At the beginning he told me not to worry, that everything will be okay. Then he started to tell me we have ruined his life and other "bad words" I don´t want to repeat so I told him not to worry, that I could raise him on my own or that we would find a way. But then he said that he wanted us. Some times he makes me feel like he really loves me but some other times I feel like he hates me.

Because of his behavior and the fact that he did not wanted to introduce me to his family, I decided to leave to my home town abroad because I did not wanted to face all that was coming on my own, I was not feeling safe. He made me promise I would marry him, that he wanted us to be a family. I agreed because I love him and we got married before our son was born, but recently I find out that he just married me to have PR. I don´t know if he loves me or not.

He said to me that he no longer cares about me feeling safe and that he would do anything to be with our child (at the moment I still in home town and he is back to his). But I don´t know if a marriage like this (on his side, or at least that is how I feel) would be good for the baby? I don´t know if I am being selfish for wanting to feel safe or expecting to be happy when moving with him? I don´t want to make wrong decisions since its not just my life but our baby´s life as well halo

meditrina Fri 03-Feb-17 07:21:35

It's not clear what jurisdiction/s you live in.

Were you in England or one of the other home nations? Is the country where you are now a signatory to The Hague Convention? Was your DS born there? Is your DH's home town in that country too?

HannahBanana3 Fri 03-Feb-17 07:27:38

meditrina:
Were you in England or one of the other home nations?
I was in UK as a student
Is the country where you are now a signatory to The Hague Convention?
yes, it is within the Hage Convention
Was your DS born there?
Yes, he was born in my hometown
Is your DH's home town in that country too?
no, he is british. I am not.

MrsBertBibby Fri 03-Feb-17 07:30:19

Get advice form a family in your home country. And in the mean time, don't leave, or let your child leave that country.

meditrina Fri 03-Feb-17 07:35:44

It sounds as if the laws of the country where you are will apply. It is likely that as your DS was born there to a national of that country, he will also be a national. He has never lived anywhere else.

Your DS's birth certificate would be of that nationality, and that country's rules on PR would be the ones that apply.

HannahBanana3 Fri 03-Feb-17 07:45:51

The thing is that my husband has already applied for baby´s passport and dual nationality.

DirtyBlonde Fri 03-Feb-17 07:50:06

What is the problem with dual nationality? With each parent having a separate nationality, then your DC is (probably) entitled to both and a passport is only a way of documenting that; and it's not uncommon to have two.

But, when in the country of one nationality, the second one becomes somewhat irrelevant. So you and your DC are home nationals for as long as you stay in your home country.

Penfold007 Fri 03-Feb-17 07:53:39

Hannah why shouldn't your H have PR for your mutual DC?

Collaborate Fri 03-Feb-17 08:03:12

If it makes you feel better, it's highly unlikely he married you just to get PR. Ignoring for a moment fact that child was born abroad, he'd get PR in this country in an instant by applying to court. Far cheaper to do that than to marry and then divorce.

HannahBanana3 Fri 03-Feb-17 08:12:01

Tenfold 007: I don´t mind him having PR, but the way he is behaving. Like he does not want me to apply for my visa, or for my home-town passport for our baby. I want us to be a family, of course, but his behavior is weird.

Collaborate: I find out not because it was my guess but he wrote that, and then he confirmed it to me himself =(

Collaborate Fri 03-Feb-17 14:11:21

Then he's either a fool, or he's saying that just to hurt you. Cost of applying for PR? £5000. Cost of getting married then divorced? Much, much more.

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