I have been in the UK for 14 years and married British national, currently 7 months pregnant but thinking of moving back to holland (as I'm Dutch) after divorce. How will this work legally with parental responsibility? What if he disapproves? Has anyone experienced this before or know of anyone who had to take this up legally? Please advise
If my ex was trying to take my child to live in another country from birth, I would go to a solicitor and start the ball rolling for a Prohibited Steps Order to stop them. I would also be seeking 50/50 child care. (albeit delaying implementation for at least 6 months whilst my child was very young and possibly breastfeeding - then I would delay the overnights)
What has happened in your marriage that you think it is in your child's best interests not to have a full relationship with both parents?
Let's say he consents to me moving. How would it work with visitations? Am I responsible for bringing the child over or would he have to come over? I suppose it's similar situation to moving away from London to Manchester, I am just concerned about the arrangements and what the legalities are.
Are you and him amicable? Can you sit and talk it over with each other?
You are both parents to this baby and the babies needs to come first. You need to work out together what is best, Is living in a different country to 1 parent best? How do you plan for that to work in an ideal world?
We are on bad terms, however I do not intend to stop him from having contact with his child. In fact I think it important. He lives in a flatshare and therefore the child staying with him isn't a option. In a ideal world we would come over in holidays or he could come see the baby. We have already agreed that the baby will live with me full time.
Don't kid yourself that it's the same as London to Manchester Unless that London right beside LHR and you're going to move right beside AMS, and you live in cloud cuckoo land where flights are never delayed and the cost of them will never be an issue.
You may have good reasons to being your child up in s different country to their father. But don't try to pretend to yourself that it's like two cities in one country.
I speak as someone who does a weekly flight commute.
Go before the baby is born. Don't go just to give birth. Stay there and make Holland the baby's habitual residences. He can't stop you. He could make it very difficult once the baby is born and you could be refused consent.