Hello,
I have name changed for this.
I have a son with an ex partner, usually we have a fairly amicable relationship and can talk, arrange things and generally rub along OK. However he has a sister who's partner is a convicted pedophile.
She has chosen to remain engaged to him, during the investigations, since the trial has finished and when he was convicted and given his sentence. The abuse was against one of their neices and went on for over 2 years without anybody knowing.
My ex partner and I agreed when it first came out that our son would have zero contact with his sister or the pedophile. This has (mostly) been adheered to and I have been happy with the level of protection my ex has given our son.
However, he has just informed me that he will be taking our son away on a family holiday which his sister will also be attending. I am not happy or comfortable with this at all. She has stood by this man and her family have seemingly accepted that and brought her back into the "main fold of the family" as if nothing ever happened. She has lost her job as a nursery worker as a result of this issue.
I have tried to speak to him and get him to understand my feelings on this issue, but he seems to think that it would be seen as "rude" to snub his parents invitation to this event.
As we have no legal or court ordered shared custody arrangement, could I stop my ex from having our son that weekend without legal repercussions? I don't want to make a mess of our civil relationship that I have worked really hard to maintain, but I feel like the safety and wellbeing of our child are being put at risk - She has been all but brainwashed by this man and has shown time after time that she will put him before her family.
Is there anything I can do? Can I get a court order to stop her from being near our son even though she hasn't been convicted? Can I just not allow my ex to take our son that weekend? Or do I have to allow him to go?
Thank you if you read this far and thank you even more if you have an answer
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User200388 · 10/09/2016 19:05
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