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CAO but still at risk of loosing grandson

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Supergran58 Sat 20-Aug-16 15:27:40

Hi, I hope someone can help me. My then 18 yo dd (adopted from the care system aged 8 with lots of emotional baggage) hada gorgeous baby boy last summer. At the time dd was still living at home. Im a teacher and when I went back to work last September, things went down hill rapidly in terms of the quality of care my dgs received from his mum. Last Christmas ss became involved when dd disclosed to sis in law, a health visitor, that she'd shaken him and thrown him on a bed. He has been CIN since then. She's alliwed unsupervised contact but only for a few hours at a time. Ss pushed for me to apply for an SGO I wouldnt but did agree to CAO and an interim one has been granted pending a parenting assessment for my dd. Dgs has been going to a term time childminder since January where he is doing remarkably well in all areas of his development and dumbfounding SW and HV who given his history were expecting more issues with him. The problem I have now is that DD has moved in with boyfriend leaving me with dgs and our relationship has all but broken down. She is ok with baby but surly and aggressive with me to the pount where I dont want her in the house anymore. I have logged everything with the sw and her key worker but she is portraying me as the wicked witch of the west to the point where sw is considering moving dgs to a foster placement so the parenting assessment can continue. Key worker is belueving all the lies dd is spinning and were it not for the fact dgs is cleatly thriving with me, im sure things would have progressed to child protection and sw has said that would mean permanence planning ie adoption. What can I do to stop this happening?

freemanbatch Sat 20-Aug-16 20:59:38

I'd look again at the SGO application if I was in your position and see if it's possible to secure your grandson with you and then organise contact with your daughter if it's deemed safe after assessment.

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