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Funeral - who pays? (confused)

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cankles Fri 24-Jun-16 18:08:01

Hi, need a little legal advice, Dad recently admitted to hospital with heart problem (he smokes and is an alcoholic). He's 82. Have just found out that he has no funeral policy (if that's the right term?) but the house, when it's sold, will pay for his funeral. This doesn't sound right? Presumably someone has to pay up front first? There is only my brother and I.

If anyone could help with this, I would really appreciate it. TIA.

katemiddletonsnudeheels Fri 24-Jun-16 18:10:03


You put down a deposit but the rest is paid two months or so later. Some funeral directors will hang fire until property is sold but I think you'd need to have a buyer in place first. Sorry for what you're going through xx

Hassled Fri 24-Jun-16 18:10:31

My understanding (not a lawyer) is that it comes out of the deceased's estate. So when he dies, the house is sold/bank accounts are accessed etc, and from whatever money is collected any debts are paid and then the remainder is allocated to the inheritors. Presumably the funeral parlour people are used to this.

cankles Fri 24-Jun-16 18:13:41

thanks, Kate, it's all a bit confusing, he'd led me to believe that he had set aside some money (which I imagine he did at one point but has now spent), i'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable or not to be a bit p.o. with him.

Rangirl Fri 24-Jun-16 18:14:52

In my experience Funeral directors these days expect payment long before Probate A bank will normally release funds to pay the funeral If all the money is tied up in the house someone will have to pay it and be repaid from thee sale proceeds

cankles Fri 24-Jun-16 18:14:57

thanks, Hassled.

cankles Fri 24-Jun-16 18:16:18

so perhaps a bit of a grey area, thanks Rangirl. So it's possible that my brother and I will have to pay up front and then take out of the proceeds of the house (if this hasn't already been sold). Many thanks.

Littlegoat123 Fri 24-Jun-16 18:18:30

Hi if you contact this link
Social security will pay the funeral costs (up to a certain amount) if your father does not have enough to cover it in immediate bank funds. As he has assets (house) they will require it to be paid back once private has completed...don't panic this happens a lot, just tell the funeral director you are applying for the social funeral payment fund xx

Littlegoat123 Fri 24-Jun-16 18:19:16

Probate not private sorry x

cankles Fri 24-Jun-16 18:20:09

thanks Littlegoat, that's very helpful too.

Littlegoat123 Fri 24-Jun-16 18:20:29

You will not be expected to pay it personally even if you are executer

cankles Fri 24-Jun-16 18:23:36

that's great, I'll have a good look at the link x

kath6144 Fri 24-Jun-16 20:35:54

Op does your dad have any money at all in the bank? My mum passed away earlier this year, she had enough in bank to pay the main funeral bill, and the bank released the funds even before probate.

I had paid the original deposit and reclaimed that from the estate once we had probate and all monies were released.

cankles Fri 24-Jun-16 23:05:51

Hi Kath, no he has no money in the bank, in fact, only post office account but there is no savings or anything.

SaveSomeSpendSome Fri 24-Jun-16 23:11:08

I dont think the govenment just step in and pay it like that. Im pretty sure they look at the family paying it first. If family say they cant afford it then they want proof etc.

My friend died 18 months ago and had no savings, was a council tenant and had a load of debt. She had £40 in her bank when she died and that was it.

Her mother and daughter had to foot the bill.

HunterHearstHelmsley Fri 24-Jun-16 23:15:05

The family have to pay it. Funeral companies will wait if there is proof of the money but you have to pay all of their outgoings up front. The rest can be settled later.

HunterHearstHelmsley Fri 24-Jun-16 23:16:20

The social funeral payment applies to the family not the deceased.

Imperialleather2 Fri 24-Jun-16 23:20:05

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SaveSomeSpendSome Fri 24-Jun-16 23:21:42

Seems i was right. Look at the very bottom of the page

Littlegoat123 Fri 24-Jun-16 23:35:33

Well I got it for my mum, I had savings but they based it on my mums savings/money not mine. I was not on any benefits, but I am in Scotland so may be different? Looks like Scotland is shining today wink people be moving here for eu membership and subsidised funerals xx

mountaintoclimb Fri 24-Jun-16 23:47:15

I think the funeral directors will wait for payment but will charge interest.

cankles Sat 25-Jun-16 09:49:26

thanks everyone.

Imperial your comment is unhelpful. I'm looking for advice so that I can plan for the future.

marriednotdead Sat 25-Jun-16 10:24:29

I cared for a friend and had to organise his funeral a few years ago, he had a funeral policy but it didn't cover much.
IIRC there was a government grant of about £2k because of the benefits either he or his family were in receipt of. The funeral could only go ahead once the disbursements were paid, the funeral directors costs could wait and they will accept instalments.

I know many of the funeral directors offer policies where you pay in advance for a funeral at today's prices plus a few hundred pounds admin charges on top. When you die hopefully many years later, what you paid for will have increased in cost massively but the policy will cover it.
Having seen the fallout around the loss of my friend, I have told my adult DD that I will be buying such a policy. There is no financial convenience in death and to suddenly have to stump up many thousands is not something everyone can do.

cankles Sat 25-Jun-16 17:59:13

Thanks savesome and married. I have no savings so a policy sounds sensible.

SaveSomeSpendSome Sat 25-Jun-16 18:03:51


Whether you will have to pay for the funeral depends on if you or your brother claim any state benefits.

Im not sure what happens if for example you claimed state benefits but your brother didnt. Would you brother be expected to pay for the funeral?

I ve no idea

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