Hi,
I'm posting here as I'd like to know what my family's options are for receiving unwanted contact. I will try and be as concise as possible, sorry if it turns into a longer post but want to outline the situation.
I have a previous thread on relationships - here's the link www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2257159-Struggling-with-in-law-relationship-help-please
The person who is contacting us is my mother in law and the relationship has broken down several times over the past few years due to her emotional abuse and controlling and manipulative behaviour.
She has hit me in the past (on one occasion, twice) and physically blocked me from getting to my child when she needed comforting and was crying her eyes out. She has lied about my DH and I to the family to make us the bad ones and so that they see her as the victim. We now have no contact with any of his side of the family which is incredibly sad, but their choice. My DH has been severely depressed and on medication, and was signed off work for some time last year.
After the latest instalment we wrote to her and informed her that we did not want any kind of relationship with her going forward, due to how hurtful her behaviour is. We also stated that she must not send anything such as cards or presents/other people round to speak to us about this.
My mother in law has now somehow found my Dad's telephone number and called him, and has lied even to my own father about what has happened. She also made demands for him to speak to us then call her back and tell her what we said. As my dad is very aware of the situation (it's been going on for nearly three years now) he saw straight through the act and didn't engage with her.
What I'd like to know is what our options are re making her stop trying to contact us. It's very distressing and we have suffered the loss of DH's side of the family twice over the past 2 years (they withdrew contact the first time this happened, we saw them when we were in contact with her for two months of last year before the nasty behaviour resurfaced, and now they have all gone again), she tells people she wants a relationship with us but continues to lie and make us out to be horrible people. We've gone above and beyond to try and make this work, but it's so upsetting for us both and hurts us to carry on like this.
Thank you for your time, I really appreciate it xx
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