I suffer with depression and Borderline Personality Disorder and due to self harm and domestic violence on my part (which I am ashamed of) I was no longer allowed to live with my partner and our daughter (17months) and his son from a previous marriage (7) this was decided by social services which have been involved for a long time and we are currently under 'Child In Need'.
We are not married, but we are still in a relationship and I currently live in a hostel. I see my daughter for 2 hours on a Monday and a Friday and she stays over once every two Saturday's when my partners son goes to his moms, but I am only allowed supervised access with my partner.
Anyway, I've changed so much in the last 6 months, I've been attending therapy, I haven't self harmed, misused medication and am basically a completely changed person. I've done everything social services have asked me to do and have been fighting to have unsupervised access, or have my mom be someone who can supervise too as my partner works night shifts and has another child so it's difficult for him to bring my daughter to me more than he already does. So, whilst all this is going on they 'made' my partner apply for a residency order through the court so that if I was to run off with my daughter they could get the police involved.
I received a copy of the application and he's written that he wants FULL CUSTODY!!! I challenged him about it and he said he didn't know what the order was called so he just put that which is a load of rubbish! I'm not that stupid. He also said he's writing a letter to the judge to say he doesn't want full custody he just put that because he didn't know the name of the order.
Now, I don't know what to do!! The heading of the application says: Application under section 8 of the Children Act 1989 for a child arrangements, prohibited steps, specific issues order or to vary or discharge or ask permission to make a section 8 order.
I've read up about the section 8 and it has nothing to do with full custody, and I don't believe him one little bit that it was an accident! So under the section 8 can he actually ask for full custody? Because it's my understanding that it's nothing to do with that.
Social services also told me that the residency order wouldn't take away any of my parental responsibility and it was just a precaution, so I'm thinking he's lied to them as well! I am not stupid! A residency order and full custody are COMPLETELY different things!
I'm going to fight it, and he doesn't really stand a chance because of various reasons, but I can't get in touch with anyone until Monday. I have a mental health advocate as well and I know she will help me a lot, but I just want some advice because I'm really hurt. He got really angry when I confronted him and said things like "it would cost me £650 to apply for full custody and I've only paid £250", "Google a section 8 and you'll see it's got nothing to do with full custody", and "I DONT WANT FULL CUSTODY!!".
It's even written in his handwriting "I want full custody of daughters full name and it's written in various places in the application.
What the hell do I do?! I'm so upset! Can you actually apply for full custody on a section 8 application? I can't break up with him because as soon as I do he stops me seeing my daughter. I'm so stuck and just need some advice, personal or legal. Please help!
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Anonymous1008 · 31/01/2016 18:01
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