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What are my rights - stbxh in hospital

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NoInspirationForNewNC Tue 26-Jan-16 18:41:47

Have c&p this from my post in relationships. If I need to add any other info or explain anything further just say. If I started writing then I'm not sure I would stop! smile

Just looking for advice really.

Was reading a different thread think it turned out to be a troll about what someone is entitled to after divorce. The advice scared me. Slightly different for me as stbxh and I have 2 children together. But the house was all his. The house was sold (repossession) but there is still £160k floating around somewhere. He doesn't have it (he is in hospital), I don't have it (my name not on anything) I have spoken to a few solicitors with the free half hours but they can't say much apart from it will cost me £2-£5k to go down this process of a financial settlement. I don't have that money. I don't have the £500fora divorce. I don't receive maintenance from ex. He is voluntarily in a psychiatric unit - has been for 3 years this march.

This sounds awful I know. I am struggling to separate the emotion from everything.

Can anyone suggest where I go from here or what I do?

Thanks

NoInspirationForNewNC Tue 26-Jan-16 21:02:33

shameless bump blush

PeachFuzzzz Tue 26-Jan-16 21:08:47

I don't know. Citizens advice bureau?

Marilynsbigsister Tue 26-Jan-16 21:44:59

Were you married when the house was sold op ? It makes one hell of a difference ?

NoInspirationForNewNC Tue 26-Jan-16 22:47:57

Yes we were. Met in 2003. Dd born in2005. Married 2008. Ds born 2010. H sectioned 2013 (appealed after a week successfully but remained in voluntarily since) House repossessed 2014.

GrannyGrott Tue 26-Jan-16 23:19:29

Op - what a difficult situation for you. If your STBX was sectioned in 2013, who acted on his behalf regarding the repossession in 2014? Are you sure the £160k isn't sitting in his bank account?

gallicgirl Tue 26-Jan-16 23:24:34

I once had a customer whose house had been repossessed after he handed keys to bank and walked away from it.
The bank sold it and there was a significant excess. Unfortunately this man had not told the bank where he'd moved to and they couldn't trace him so the money sat in a holding account at the bank for a couple of years until he got in touch with them.
Could that possibly be the situation in this scenario?

SweetieXPie Tue 26-Jan-16 23:28:36

I would def seek the advice of Citizens Advice Bureau.
I used to work in conveyancing. If the property was repossessed, the mortgage would have obviously been paid off, you often find with repossessions that other debts have gone unpaid, the creditors will place a charge on the house, meaning the solicitor who acted in the house sale would have had to get redemption statements and pay those debts off too, as well as the extra penalties imposed by the bank that took possession.
Do you know for sure there would have been £160k left after sale of property once mortgage and other debts were paid off?
Do you have the name of the solicitors that acted for him in the sale?
Get as much paperwork together as you can in relation to the house as well as any proof you have you were living there, ie bills, mobile phone, council tax etc and make an appointment with your local citizens advice bureau.
If you don't know who acted for him, search through sold properties on right move or other house selling sites (it may still be in the history on their sites) and that will at least give you the name of the estate agent that sold it, they are not supposed to give out too much information on which solicitors acted but you never know, you may get someone inexperienced answer the phone. Every little detail helps.
Good Luck xxx

NoInspirationForNewNC Wed 27-Jan-16 07:13:42

Thanks for your responses. There are no other debts. I know the Estate Agent who sold the house and who the mortgage was with. I have spoken to both who were very helpful but obviously could only give me limited information or talk hypothetically. I don;t know who the solicitors are.
I have no paperwork to prove that I lived there but could get some, I hope, via council tax records, water bill. I have looked online and found the sale price which the estate agent confirmed. The mortgage lender said in the situation where the house owner couldn't be located the equity would be lodged with solicitors. But obviously I don't know who they are.

LIZS Wed 27-Jan-16 07:19:04

Can't believe the ea would let have know which solicitor was used. Land registry may be able to trace who lodged the deed transfer. Did you jointly own the property , in which case you'd have signed a contract and mortgage forms.

MaryRobinson Wed 27-Jan-16 07:20:24

Could you ask the estate agent "Do you find that some solicitors are more popular with some of your customers than others? Which ones" or "Do repossessed properties tend to be using one of only a few firms of solicitors?"

NoInspirationForNewNC Wed 27-Jan-16 07:24:12

No we didn't jointly own the property. Stbxh moved into my home and rented his house out. As our family grew we moved into his house. Even when we moved he kept it all in his name against my protests

NoInspirationForNewNC Wed 27-Jan-16 07:25:08

Sorry I mean we moved into his house, lived there for 5 years then sold up and moved again.

Pigeonpost Wed 27-Jan-16 07:27:38

Is anyone acting on your XH's behalf under a Court of Protection appointment? Perhaps one of his parents/other family members?

NoInspirationForNewNC Wed 27-Jan-16 07:45:56

Pigeon His parents are dead. The last contact with his only sibling ended with BIL saying I had sold the house from under stbxh. Not true. The brother blames me and, if I am being really honest, I blame him to a certain extent. Me andt he 3 dc were on our knees in the months leading up to stbxh going into hospital. We had the crisis team out every day, the gp called out every other day, the police called when stbxh assaulted me infront of our then 2 year old. BIL refused to help. I have tried to call him, left messages on his answerphone, he hasn't replied.

fastdaytears Wed 27-Jan-16 07:58:29

If he doesn't have capacity then someone can apply to the Court of Protection to be his Deputy and will then be able to find out where all this money is, but that costs around £700 plus court fees of another £500 ish, and he hasn't necessarily lost capacity just because he's an in-patient

fastdaytears Wed 27-Jan-16 08:00:40

So did you own your property and he owned his? Were they similar values? Do you still have your property or was that sold when you moved into his?

NoInspirationForNewNC Wed 27-Jan-16 08:00:56

I thought because he successfully appealed against his sectioning that mean he had capacity? I am completely lost as to how to proceed.

fastdaytears Wed 27-Jan-16 08:21:33

Well at that point he probably did, but that was some time ago.

I'm so sorry you're in the position. It must be so hard for you and the children.

Everything I can think of for you to do costs money you don't have, and there's no guarantee of getting anything at the end.

Is your ex's condition likely to improve any time soon?

fastdaytears Wed 27-Jan-16 08:22:41

Just to say though, the fact that you have DC makes your situation very different to on that troll thread so don't let that worry you.

ditherydora Wed 27-Jan-16 09:02:47

Are you on a low income or benefits? I think you might be entitled to get help with court fees. I am assuming you won't get much legal aid help so suggest you try citizens advice or see if there is a free legal advice service you can use. I used to advise at one and they can be quite good. You need to take any relevant paperwork with you though if you go.

Seems to me you could either apply for the court of protection order or the divorce. If you have a protection order you will need to act in the best interests of your husband and that will be impossible if you are trying to divorce him. I think you need to establish if he has capacity to manage his affairs or not. If not, then I am guessing the court will appoint someone to represent his interests if you do file for divorce.

It is very complicated though and you'll need specialist advice I think.

NoInspirationForNewNC Wed 27-Jan-16 09:18:50

Thanks again. No idea if his condition will improve. Last I was told was his diagnosis was possibly psychotic depression. That is what he was diagnosed with and hospitalised with before we met.

Yes I am on benefits sad

Spoken to my best friend. We have talked about whether we should just go up and see him. Ask him what he knows. Not sure if that is a good idea or not. He will ask about the dc. I don't know what to tell him.

Familylawsolicitor Wed 27-Jan-16 09:22:47

What a nightmare for you - you really are one of the cases who needs legal aid. Did you suffer from any psychological effects from his behaviour towards you that might have manifested in the last two years even though the violent incident was more than two years ago - eg needed anti depressants or counselling during that time? You may even still be suffering now from the effects of his behaviour? If so your GP or other health professional could write a letter in your support stating that you were suffering from a condition attributable to domestic violence, bearing in mind violence incorporates psychological and emotional abuse. See template request letter here www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/402382/medical-evidence.doc
That may be enough to take you through the threshold for legal aid on the basis you are financially eligible.
I could suggest lawyers who still do legal aid in the north Home Counties and London area - I'm also aware of some firms who will see private clients on the legal aid rate where they would have been financially eligible for legal aid before the DV rules came in.

NoInspirationForNewNC Wed 27-Jan-16 09:29:17

Um yes I have suffered from the effects (affects? I never get it right) I have had a lot of support from SS, the dcs schools, and my hv. Whether that can be attributed to my marriage or my upbringing I don't know and deep down I feel it would be unfair to lay the blame on stbxh.

I don't know whether to speak to stbxh directly or try again with his named nurse or brother.

NoInspirationForNewNC Wed 27-Jan-16 09:29:47

*solely on stbxh that should say

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