Divorced last year. It was agreed I would live in family home, paying half mortgage till August 2017 by which time DS will have finished A levels. Also agreed that ex would pay a fixed sum to cover bills and support dcs, to be reviewed every 3 months.
Dd went to uni in September, which brought first reduction in payment. No problem. But now ex is desperate to sell the house this year as he needs cash. Now this is a man with 2 thriving businesses. DS tells me ex wants to buy another property to develop and also buy a bolthole abroad.
He texted to say its time for a review , and proposes to cut my money by a further £200.
Can he do this? He's clearly trying to make it extremely difficult for me to run the house . Can he do this?
Yes random a clean break would be great. The house is big and i have no love for it. Financially i will be fine when we sell . My annoyance is that he is trying to push for an early sale because it suits him.
Get your valuations in , tell him what you are happy to sell it for but in the meantime no reduction in monthly maintenance and he pays the full mortgage as he is it not being honourable in looking out for DS' best interests!
Ok so if you plan to move away, presumably that wouldn't be for a while?
I think if you are happy moving now and if you can ensure you're no worse off, then do it. You'd have to be mad to make yourself worse off - even he would have to see that (though he might not admit it.)