Hi,
I'm worried about my good friend, who is upset about her abusive ex-DH. He texted her yesterday to say he wanted to pursue "financial settlement", despite the fact they split up very acrimoniously (on his part, not hers) well over a decade ago.
Their backstory is here (warning, it's long!): www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2472024-Parental-Alienation-Syndrome-a-horror-story
She remained in the marital home with her DS, then a toddler. But the son moved out a year ago to live with his father. My friend pays her ex about £300 a month in child maintenance.
So now my friend is worried that, not only will her ex get half the sale proceeds of the house (he never paid towards the mortgage), but that he's going to go after her pension too. She has a decent job but because her current partner is one of the "working poor", money is a worry.
She was looking forward to retiring in four years' time but now fears that her ex will scupper that by pursuing her for half her pension, in addition to the house proceeds, meaning she will have to work longer.
While married, she was the breadwinner. He had a few odd jobs then decided to run a food outlet, which failed. For a large proportion of the marriage she paid all the bills and the mortgage, as he refused to get a proper job.
Now he's getting my friend's maintenance money, he's gone off long-term sick from work. My friend thinks he's going to go after her pension, too.
They split up a long time ago but she only divorced him a year ago or so because she was so upset about her son leaving. She has always known the day would come when she would have to sell the house but I'm just wondering if anyone can advise on the pension situation?
Apparently, he has a pension too through his workplace, but my friend's pension will be bigger as she has worked for the same organisation all her life. However, he has also been hinting to his son that he will have to "give up work" because of an "injury".
Any advice greatly appreciated. Many thanks.
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Can my friend's (cocklodger) ex-DH get half her pension?
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stargirl04 · 11/11/2015 12:36
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