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Divorcing and he wants a copy of my CV and tax credit letter WHY?

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Kazanova Sun 01-Nov-15 15:30:38

I still feel that my soon to be ex is still playing the mind games that he used to do when he lived with us. Cant understand why he would want my CV. I dont have a job due to a house move but Im concerned that he thinks he can find me one in London even though I live 100 miles away. I know he cant do anything with the tax credit as he needs to get past security. I just hope he does not use my CV for any purpose

mintbiscuit Sun 01-Nov-15 15:38:01

When my dh divorced his first wife his legal team needed to show what her earning potential would be in the future. This was used as a factor in deciding spousal maintenance. Could be your stbxh is doing the same?

VimFuego101 Sun 01-Nov-15 15:39:04

If you aren't looking for spousal maintenance then I see no reason why you should give him your CV.

Shutthatdoor Sun 01-Nov-15 15:39:41

Tax credit letter I can understand as you may need to prove this later when sorting finances anyway.

ImperialBlether Sun 01-Nov-15 15:43:30

The tax credits you get now you've separated are nothing to do with him. He is entitled to letters about tax credits you got when you were together.

Your CV is nothing at all to do with him.

Why did you give them to him?

mintbiscuit Sun 01-Nov-15 15:45:27

Btw I don't think you are obliged to give him your CV! But it is likely he will be using it to get quotes from agencies about the types of jobs you could do and likely salary.

Nottodaythankyouorever Sun 01-Nov-15 15:45:42

A really your tax credits do need to be included within your form E when sorting finances.

Your exH solicitors can ask for proof of what you get.

StopTittingAbout Sun 01-Nov-15 15:51:21

Why on earth would you give him your CV?! He doesn't need it at all. Loads of people don't even have a CV. Next time he asks for something, think before you just hand it over (in the nicest possible way)! However, I doubt he'll be able to do anything terrible with it, maybe it was just curiosity. So what if he finds you a job somewhere unsuitable, tell him you're not interested in that job (none of his business why) and you're not interested him finding you a job at all, he needs to butt out.

babybarrister Sun 01-Nov-15 19:06:59

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DeoGratias Mon 02-Nov-15 07:27:38

Yes, it could be forced out of you anyway. Also it might already be on line on linked in and finally if he found you a job surely that would be brilliant. Isn't it good to have a job?

Kazanova Mon 23-Nov-15 19:11:49

What I dont get is my cv was from 10 years ago and I could not earn that kind of money again anyway. I had to give my cv and tax credit and the Barristers and solicitors as they told me I had too. Even with the tax credit I am taking enough to pay for the kids and the bills. Think my barrister agreed that I could not just walk back into a job like I used to as I had a very good job but would never get that again. Actually if he found me a job it would be terrible as he would find it in London and I dont live anywhere near there. He would do on purpose so that I could not look after the kids. I would tell him to go jump and stop trying to still control me. Tax credits are also tax deductable so if you receive job seekers this would apply. I would love a job but it does have to work around the kids or school child care. I only had to go on job seekers due to he was not a very nice man. I did not think I could claim spousal maintenance?????? I thought you had to earn a certain amount of money for that

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