ExH and I separated 4 months ago. Originally I had planned to wait 2 years before divorcing but ex is bring obstructive when it comes to mediation and sorting out finances; my solicitor has advised me to go for a divorce now.
I don't really know what to say about unreasonable behaviour as although his behaviour led me to have a breakdown, it's hard to quantify exactly what he did to cause it. There was no abuse as such.
Mine was equally vague - He worked extremely long hours and was rarely at home He caused anxiety by overspending and leaving no money for food He criticised my domestic skills He was did not provide emotional support He was overly critical ...
Just heard from my solicitor, the fucking cuntweasel beat me to it and is issuing his own petition. I've yet to find out what unreasonable behaviour he is citing, but my solicitor has advised me to not contest it but not accept blame either. Arse!
I really feel Penfold007 is totally correct, surely you have got what you want?! I think I read on another thread that you might have had said you have some issues with depression and have self harmed in front of your toddlers? is that correct or was it someone else? would you ex be aware of this at all? I am just worried that that might constitute unreasonable behaviour, but I am an accountant not a lawyer! so feel free to ignore me hope it works out ok
Really useful information for the OP I am sure Penfold, sounds like it should be heeded. I apologise if I have acccidentally 'scared you away' OP , but I do lurk and read many threads on Mumsnet, particularly on mental health issues. I too have issues in that area at times. I am afraid I have the sort of accountant's mind that cross references threads and remembers names that stick out such as yours! always makes me smile Do take care.
Yes that was me. He will use my MH issues as the unreasonable behaviour I'm sure, that's how much of a scumbag he is. My solicitor has replied saying he already has a statement of fact showing unreasonable behaviour from me, but we will wait to see his draft. He also said that I won't contest it as long as he doesn't go for costs from me, and he is never to discuss the divorce with the children. I'm pleased to be getting divorced but am very worried his family will tell the boys all the gory details.