please could someone with knowledge of sexual offences legislation and caselaw help?
I start a sexual relationship with a man and make it clear that I will only have unprotected sex once we both have clear std test results. We use condoms and get the std tests done. While waiting for the test results we are having sex with a condom, but the condom breaks. He realises it has broken but chooses not to tell me, by his own admission, because he does not want to have to stop and put a new one on. I have no idea it has broken. He carries on for some time until he has come inside me, and only then tells me what he has done.
The police have told me that this is not rape or even sexual assault, because I consented to sex with him, and because I did not withdraw my consent during the act. I did not withdraw consent because I did not know the condom had broken. In my view my consent lasted only as long as the condom was intact, and from the moment he realised it had broken and chose to carry on without telling me, there was no consent and no reasonable belief on his part that I was consenting.
Please could you help with this? Is there any caselaw that relates to this situation?
Many thanks.
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misty75 · 02/06/2014 08:07
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