Residency Order - final hearing - have to write letter to Court stating what I want to happen

[SaharaBlue]

Dear all,

Clearly this is a pretty worrying time. My 2 DDs live with me, having split up with the XP due to his violence - physical, emotional ...
He has seen a councellor for two years and now re-married. There are signs he are treating the two DDs differently and one is happy there, the other not. They currently go ever four weeks but he wants them to live there. The eldest said she did but says she only wants holidays.

There are issues with him accusing me of violence and alcohol abuse. I did find the time with him very frightening and I did drink afterwards to get me through it. I don't any more.

I also had issues with stress abut do dealt with it.

I now live with my partner who gets on great with the DDs.

I've raised my concerns about him to my social worker... for instance he told the elder that I hated her and to run away. She was found on a train on the way to his house, terrified.

I's hard, as he still tries to intimidate me... arriving unannounced to pick the girls up when it's not his weekend.... shouting on the phone, not keeping to the times he has been ordered to phone them, not letting them access to the computer to do their homework.

He says he wants them to live with hi, but he leaves the flat at 7am and gets home at 8.30pm, which would effectively leave his wife - who has two small children (one his) to look after them and I don't believe she would put enough care into them.
I honestly don't believe he does want them to live there... he's very controlling and just doesn't want them to be with me (back to the fact I left him, some kind of punishment).

However, I need to write to the court explaining what I want to happen going forward, but not dwelling on the past.

I need some tips on what to say...
I've already enrolled on parenting classes and self improvement classes, particularly regarding my resilience and self confiidence, as well as saying I need better support from him - suggesting mediation to facilitate'better communication and joined up' parenting... but any other experience/ advice would be truly welcomed.

Thank you

[TestingTestingWonTooFree]

Start with making a list of what you want to happen in:
Term time
Half term
Christmas
Easter
Summer
Mothers/Father's Day
Birthdays
Bank holidays

Ideally in principle so that it will work for every year. Also worth suggesting dates for the rest of this year and all of the next academic year.

Then work out general rules for thing like:
Who gets first choice on precise arrangements
When arrangements have to be set
Change to arrangements
Communication
School events
Indirect contact (ie children texting/calling the other parent)

Bullet points are fine, sometimes better than an essay. Ultimately the Court needs a comprehensive arrangement that will work for the 4 of you. Focus on that, then work out the why later. Your post above is a lot of why, but not much what.