I have been advised today that to cover the fact my ex is unlikely to agree to my dd going on holiday out of spite, that I should go to court for a residence order.
Now I am a bit concerned, because I see that as of April it is no longer a residence order, but a Child arrangement agreement (or such like).
Exp as I have said before, wants dd adopted by my DH, and has not seen/contacted her in five years.
However, I'm concerned that this new order is a) brand new and b) quite heavy on the whole access thing.
I do not want exp to have access to dd if I can help it, but I am concerned that if I go for residence a judge will say "oh ex Mr Izzie, I see you have no contact with your dd? Would you like access" which, my ex will say he does, as he will be furious that I have gone to court in the first place, and the fact he is trying to force a situation where my DH adopts her will be forgotten and he will get access.
So, my questions are, does anyone know anything about this new order? How likely is it that he could just march out with access, and if I was to go for a specific issue order for holidays could I ask it to run until she was 16 or would I need to return to court for each and every holiday we took?
I am due for mediation this week, although I am doubtful he will turn up, and I was going to ask for agreement over holidays with him, but it am not sure, again, if I need permission for each and every holiday, or if I can get one letter that says he agrees to me taking dd on holiday whenever I need to?
He has no reason to refuse holidays other than spite btw.
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Holidays, residence, specific issue orders and questions
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izziewizzie · 24/03/2014 20:15
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