Stuck with finances

[Bluesandgreen]

My ex Husband won't sign the forms to allow DD to go to the private school she's just got into. It is a requirement that both parents sign. We have agreed that I will pay the fees but the forms are also a contract for fees and he does not want to do this in case I default. He is happy for DD to go otherwise.

I thought about drawing up another contract between us that says I will pay - he says it still wouldn't work as it would still be him signing a contract with the school so they would still chase him and if I couldn't meet their contract why should I be able meet one between him and me. I see his point but is there anything we could do about this?

Has anyone managed to persuade a school to draw up a different contract from an NRP who refuses to sign the standard one?

[Lonecatwithkitten]

I have it written into the consent order that I will pay the fees. A copy of this should sent to the school should illustrate to them that only you are financially responsible and satisfy him.

[Bluesandgreen]

We divorced several years ago when DD was still in state primary so there is nothing in our order about school fees sadly.

[TheGirlFromIpanema]

Do the school really need your ex to sign? Have you explicitly asked?

I would imagine a co-signatory is probably more for guarantor type reasons in case of default. What if a child had only one parent?

I would ask them, if say, my parents, could co-sign instead.

[Bluesandgreen]

I think the school don't like the idea of having parents squabbling over school and want them both to agree to school rules. I think it's because they know he has contact and PR they want him to sign. I got tge impression if he'd been off the scene then it wouldn't have been an issue.