This is a bit of a different one.
I am divorced and my DDs reside with their father, this is a long and other story so please don't judge me on this, they stayed there in the week and I had them weekends and Hols.
I am now remarried and have recently moved a flight away as a result of my husbands job and my DDs come at holiday time.
Prior to the move I had a stable job and my maintenance payment to my xH was over double the CSa advice.(as well as every term paying half of the termly clubs etc) We had a statement of arrangements written up by a solicitor and my exH to a certain extent bullied me into these large payment regardless of whether I could afford it. Well, then I could, just about it didn't leave me with much left in the month after paying it.
I realise I should have had a solicitor but at the time I was weak and I was terrified of the costs that would ensue and getting into debt. I just let him walk all over me.
He owes me a reasonable sum from the equity in the house.
When we moved here obviously I had to give up my job.
I have agreed for a certain amount of time to pay half the payment and the other half comes off my exHs debt to me. But my savings are running out.
The kind of job I could get here would nowhere near pay me what I used to earn and I just won't be able to pay him what I used to . I could probably scrape together what the CSA payment whilst I was working before was. If that makes sense.
I am terrified if I approach this issue with him he will stop me seeing my precious DDs who I love dearly and ideally would want with me anyway.
What do I do?
All my savings go on the girls and I haven't got any extra money to get a solicitor.
I went through a hard few years and things are just starting to come right for me, I love my new husband and have my two gorgeous DDs and two smalls DSs. But this financial issue hangs over me all the time.
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Tryfon · 07/02/2014 13:28
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