Last November DH and I did the Will Aid thing. We found a local solicitor who was participating and had a meeting to draw up a will - our first. It cost £130 which was a huge amount of money but something we needed to do.
We weren't that happy immediately after the meeting, to be honest. We went along with a list of things we wanted to include, not massive, but things that were important to us.
These include:
DH is from New Zealand, and all his family are over there. We wanted to put a clause in that if anything happened to us, my sister (as guardian of our two children) would undertake to get them to NZ to visit family every three years minimum, and providing for this - life insurance, house sale etc.
Giving my wedding ring to DD1 and my engagement ring to DD2.
Not much more than that.
My sister had said when she wrote her will, her solicitor had even asked what would happen to the dog and suggested that if I was to take her, that money come with her to allow me to care for her properly. She also has left various bits of jewellery to family members, and paintings.
My solicitor on the other hand said that we should just leave everything in trust for the girls, for the trustees to manage if the girls were still minors. And joked that presumably we trusted them if they were also guardians for our children. So there's nothing about any special bits of jewellery and who gets them, nothing about the girls needing to go to NZ, just this basic one page 'I leave everything to my surviving spouse, and to the girls if we both die together, and in that case my sister will be in charge'.
I'm really not happy with it. My sister said her solicitor said that you need to remember that if the worst is to happen, then everyone is so fraught with emotion that the clearer you can be the better, as opposed to my guy suggesting we rely totally on trust. I also don't know, because we did will aid, whether we actually have any come-back, and whether in fact we got the basic will we paid for and this is it - a basic will which fundamentally says bugger all. We can't afford to pay for another will starting from scratch, and am now wishing we'd not done the charity thing but paid direct so that we felt we had more redress.
I phoned will aid but the woman just said it was between us and the solicitor and that putting loads of detail into a will was not always advisable. Loads of detail - maybe, but some, surely?
Anyway, I want to know about wills. If you have one, is it similar to mine - here, have my kids, and look after everything for me and we'll trust you to be fair about it - or if you have actually specified some things?
We haven't signed the draft will yet.
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babybythesea · 06/02/2014 16:17
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