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Court accidentally disclosing a confidential address to an abusive ex.

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babyhammock Sun 19-May-13 08:16:07

There are two court orders, including one from the High Court that say my ex is not allowed to have my address. I moved here to get away from him, away from all my friends, changed my car, phone, not on electoral role.

Anyway the court have accidentally put my address (in bold capitals no less) on an order that was sent to him.
What can I do sad

LittleEsme Mon 20-May-13 13:09:09

Relieved for you OP.

babyhammock Mon 20-May-13 12:08:26

Thanks again

MisForMumNotMaid Mon 20-May-13 11:59:50

Thank you for coming back to update. I was thinking of you, as I'm sure was everyone else who's read the thread.

I hope that the adrenalin leaves your system quickly so you're able to get on with finding a way to make tentative steps forward with your life again.

Wishing you well for Wednesday.

EuroShaggleton Mon 20-May-13 10:06:33


babyhammock Mon 20-May-13 09:48:11

Thank you thanks

claudedebussy Mon 20-May-13 09:36:37

there's not much more you can do about that.

the police know now so you've done the best you can.

sending you lots of hugs and goodwill.

Alwayscheerful Mon 20-May-13 09:32:12

Thank goodness.

Selba Mon 20-May-13 09:26:07

Whew! What a relief

babyhammock Mon 20-May-13 09:13:46

I've just phoned the court and they've told me that apparently an amended order was sent out to my ex that didn't show my address. I'm really hoping that is the case but it doesn't explain why on this occasion or in my copy my address was in the body of the order so I'm still worried. But I guess there's not much else I can do but wait and see.
Thanks again for all your replies

claudedebussy Sun 19-May-13 22:38:16


easy for me to say but i'd make a complaint. totally understand about not wanting to highlight it, but it does need to be addressed. if you don't do anything you'll be stewing.

LisaMed Sun 19-May-13 22:34:18

This must be nearly twenty years ago, and it happened to someone I worked with not me so this is tenuous but it may be something.

I worked at the County Court. Someone sent out papers involved in an adoption to the biological parents showing the adoptive parents' address and there were really good reasons for not giving that address. The court ended up paying removal costs. The legally qualified ones on here will be able to put me right, but surely if the Court's action has caused you problems then it is up to the Court to put it right. It's so long since I was there I am out of touch, but it may be something to aim for if that is what you want.

Wishing you all the luck in the world.

everynameistaken Sun 19-May-13 20:54:03

Hoping everything will be ok op.

This is a data breach and they could be fined big ££. In my line of work [legal] if we send confidential stuff to wrong solicitors etc we could be fined in excess of £300,000k.

I know thats not your priority at the moment, but you must bring it to the attention of the court and make a formal complaint.

LittleEsme Sun 19-May-13 20:40:36

I'm hoping that everything will be ok, OP. I'm aghast at what I'm reading here.

babyhammock Sun 19-May-13 20:08:10

baby I looked at their site today. I'll phone the court and see what they say, then I'll contact them. Thank you

babybarrister Sun 19-May-13 20:06:12

please do report this to the ministry of justice as it is unlikely to be the fault of the judge him or her self ....

I wonder whether Women's Aid have had experience of this - worth contacting them ....

babyhammock Sun 19-May-13 20:01:12

OMG fluffy that's terrible. Is there no accountability sad

fluffymindy Sun 19-May-13 19:51:50

My abusive Ex. was sent a full copy of all my DD's NSPCC counselling notes from her Domestic Violence recovery programme....... They we sent by my children's solicitor in error to everyone on the mailing list (including me) - they even have CONFIDENTIAL printed over each and every page.... He got to read everything she talked sabout in 18 sessions........ no one even apologised sad

Agreed moving again would be awful but please do what you have to do to protect yourselves.... they are fucking idiots and I genuinely hope you cn get some help tomorrow

babyhammock Sun 19-May-13 19:39:08

Thanks MisForMum, the police have been great and they contacted the school already and the school have his photo etc and have also been fab.

I'll call the court first thing tomorrow and see if I can get a sensible answer from them.

Moving again would be awful x

MisForMumNotMaid Sun 19-May-13 09:34:59

Do you have good police liaison? I felt I could really trust mine, he was very straight and good at offering practical advice. Some real life handholding could really help you work out the practical way forward. Don't let this build until Wednesday. The court I'm guessing will only deal with what they've scheduled to deal with.

The police might be able to get a faster response to verify the address is on both orders. They can also put you in touch with the council for possible emergency rehousing if your address is compromised and you feel this is appropriate.

Do you have a witness protection link person too? I didn't find them much practical help other than sorting out the things like whether I wanted screens or to video link to court. But again it depends on your local team.

Write letters to the school asking for extra vigelance due to a possible breach,it doesn't do any harm to ask them to review security with the DC every so often anyway. The DC and their stability is the toughest thing.

babyhammock Sun 19-May-13 09:19:19

I'll check with the court tomorrow morning.
I agree all other documents the address is blanked out where needed. But the court orders are designed to be sent to all parties and NEVER have had my address on them. It was always of undisclosed address or of confidential address

But I'll hang fire until I'm 100%

RedHelenB Sun 19-May-13 09:11:41

Surely the first thing to do is to check with the court that your address has been sent to him & not blanked out?

babyhammock Sun 19-May-13 09:08:48

The police have already put an SOP on our address and dc's schools address as the court gave him the schools address officially despite the other order.
But that's exactly what the police said about conditions they could attach to him in that they didn't want to highlight where we were if he didn't know already.

I'm in court again wednesday. Is there anything I should do wrt to the court before then or wait until I'm in court?

LittleEsme Sun 19-May-13 09:06:12

Oh god - this makes grim reading. OP can you contact the court who issued the document first thing tomorrow? Definitely Police today.

<hoping that they've only sent this letter to you >

babyhammock Sun 19-May-13 09:03:35

I'm self repping officially but my old solicitor is still supporting/helping me and I emailed her last night to see what she thought.

He's representing himself so it would have been sent straight to him.

MisForMumNotMaid Sun 19-May-13 09:00:20

On a practical note. Contact your local police station, they should be able to put your phone number on high alert (so a car is sent to your address urgently, even if you don't speak when you dial 999) and put restraining orders for the area you live in place so if he is seen in the town he can be arrested. Rather than having to wait till he makes threats/ does something.

But do get the police/court to check that he has been sent your address first or any restraining order would highlight where you are.

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