I want to remarry, have two kids (both under 16) to the arsehole we haven't seen or heard from him in 10 years! He has no relatives alive that I ever met (pil) and wouldn't be able to get the addresses of any of the others?
My questions are can I still divorce him? and if so how? please help!
Oh and I live in scotland now if that changes things?
YOu can divorce him using the ground of five years separation. However there is usually a requirement to prove that he has received the divorce papers. You can ask to be let off this requirement by submitting an application to dispense with service of the papers on him. Basically you have to show that you have made all reasonable attempts to trace him. There is a standard form for this application. The application can be submitted at the same time as or after your submit the divorce papers. The form can be downloaded from the court service website.
This actually happened to my friend, she hadnt seen her ex for nearly 20 years. Couldnt trace him, he too had hardly any family and they all died. She was advised that if she hired a private dective to find him (and even if they couldnt find him) that proved she had made an attempt to find him.
Ironically before she did that he actually contacted her asking for a divorce!
True. You can apply for a divorce after 5 years seperation without the consent of your partner or after 2 years with consent. You could also apply on the grounds of abandonment after two years also. This might be your best bet.