Long story. Will try to keep it short.
Older brother (aged 50) and I don't get on, never have. He always got on better with my Mum than Dad, but sadly she died several years ago.
My Dad lives near me and has just recently had to go into a care home, which is costing over £40K a year . Dad has savings to cover a couple of years, and I am going to try to sell his flat, which is worth another £200K. But retirement flats aren't selling very fast around here.
Meanwhile, Dad still has a holiday house 300 miles away. He hasn't used it for over 15 years, but he has just left it, and paid the annual costs of about £1500.
My brother has lived there for short periods in the past 20 years, but in the last few years has just been about 5-6 weeks a year. HOWEVER, over the years he has filled it with all his stuff, and it is such a mess that a) we could never go there, and b) it couldn't be rented out.
Now Dad is in care I have said that we should sell it, as he can no longer afford to keep paying bills. But my brother keeps throwing a hissy fit, saying that it was 'promised' to him by Mum (it wasn't hers to promise - was bought with my father's inheritance from HIS mother) and he is refusing to discuss it, saying he will inherit it in Dad's will.
The thing is - Dad gave me Power of Attorney over all his affairs last year, and also a copy of his will. In it my brother will only receive one-fifth of my Dad's estate, as the rest is left to me (one fifth) and grandchildren.
Should I tell my brother/ send him a copy of the will, in the hope that he will see that there is no point in keeping the house?
The problem is, I'm sure it will spark a chain reaction of vitriolic e-mails to me accusing me of all sorts (this has happened in the past).
Incidently, my brother doesn't know that my Dad gave me POA, as he specifically didn't want him to know, as my brother has a history of semi-bullying/ aggravating my father.
Do executors have any right to see a will before a person dies?
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Should I tell my brother what is in Dad's will?
NormaSnorks · 14/12/2012 22:03
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