Ex is taking me to court this week for access to our dd every weekend. ( she already goes there twice a week overnight) I have namechanged as I dont want to out myself. I've had some advice on here regarding the case itself and grateful.
I'm feeling really nervous about the actual hearing itself and how it will go. Ex has raised welfare concerns about my ability to care for dd and so Cafcass called me the other day for the pre-court phone interview. I have to admit to feeling pretty shaken after the call. The lady was basically asking me if there was any truth to what ex was claiming. All I could say was er...'no'. What more could I say without going on a major rant about him being a liar? I had to really hold myself together. She asked me if I had any concerns myself, which I do - but when I was relaying them to her, I dont feel I came across very well - like I was mudslinging, and actually, she had to 'bring me back' to the orginal point several times. I could have kicked myself, but there seemed to be so much to convey in a short phonecall and I couldnt get it all out coherently. Is it true they read this call out out to the judge?
I asked the cafcass lady if ex had any chance of be awarded every single weekend, and she said 'it happens'.
Regarding the actual hearing itself, will my ex's partner be allowed to talk to cafcass before we enter the judge? I have reasons to believe she will try to.Also, can she ask to be made party to the proceedings? I will be rasiing issues regarding her and her family, so suspect she may ask to be made party.
How do I keep myself straight in front of cafcass? Will my sol be there when they are talking to me? I've read so much about cafcass being awful that I feel like the whole thing rides on how I present myself to them. How long will we talk for? I feel like I have so much to say, but how much willl they want to hear? I am torn between feeling like I should say very little - with a view to letting ex show himself up, or going for it full throttle to get it all out in the open.
Sorry for all the questions, any advice appreciated.
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First directions hearing - feeling nervous
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prettycity · 11/12/2012 17:09
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