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Found out the foster carer who may have abused DD has died

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ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight Wed 10-Oct-12 02:49:03

Hi all, hoping for some help. I can link to my other thread if needed.

DD disclosed whilst she was in FC that she had been sexually abused.
No police involvement, the SW spoke to DD in the FC home, and said she was sure DD was falsely accusing, and retracted the allegation.

This is noted in the court paperwork.

DD is now 18 and home. I was looking at chasing up the different avenues of failure, and have just been informed that the person accused has passed away.

I haven't yet approached the police as when i did at the time i was threatened by them and ignored.

Few weeks after, DD chopped off the hair of DC's in the placement and was moved, before that she was physically assaulted.

Where do we go from here?
Any good solicitors that specialise in this kind of thing and have a good record?

TIA

MrRected Wed 10-Oct-12 03:03:27

I am bit confused by your post.

Are you saying your own DD was in foster care and was abused and social services didn't do anything about it?

Why was your DD in FC? Where were you?

ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight Wed 10-Oct-12 03:15:07

1 second i will link thank you for replying

ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight Wed 10-Oct-12 03:16:17

My experience with SS

I hope it helps

ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight Wed 10-Oct-12 03:17:17

Reply not urgently needed as i know its 3am lol

ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight Wed 10-Oct-12 03:29:46

I was in court and handed a statement that claimed that DD had chopped off one of the girls' hair in the placement. DD claimed that the girl had stamped on her chest and indeed, DD had a bruise in the shape of a shoe, on her chest. No doctor was called or seen despite the bruise being deep and black. All the psych put in the report on DD regarding this was the hair cutting incident.

DD had disclosed to the SW that she had been touched down below by the FC
The SW had apparently talked to DD, told her there was no other placement she could be moved to, DD then retracted the allegation, she then decided the allegation was unfounded, TOLD the FC what had been disclosed and retracted, then left DD with them and left the property!!
The police were not called, no statements were taken, no further action was taken. I wasn't informed, until the court report was shoved into my hands just before going in. This was a favourite tactic of theirs, handing statements at the last minute so you couldn't respond to them..

No one, not one, the guardian, the judge, questioned this. I did. I told my sol she was temporarily suspended, and asked why correct procedure hadn't been followed. Apparently DD retracted her statement. Well, she did the same with the allegation against my DSB but that was seen as understandable. Surely, once it became clear you were going to leave her with the FC's, she felt threatened enough to retract the statement? I asked. I got no reply. No one pressed for a reply. Not even the fucking judge.

The next time i saw DD, she told me that the girls had been bullying her, so she got some scissors and chopped off their hair as they slept.
Following this, contact was stopped. With immediate effect. I was fuming. I know it was to do with the allegations made.
I contacted the police to tell them about the allegation. I was ignored. I then sat outside telling everyone who would listen what had happened to DD, they soon hustled me into the police station then. I told them of DD's allegation and they agreed she was being held 'incommunicado' but refused to investigate the allegations of sexual abuse.

Shortly after this, i was arrested, on the strength of a picture my DS had drawn in school, of a burning house, and had apparently told the teacher he wanted me to burn down the first SW's house, that he was sad he hadn't seen his Dsis in four years, ect. They stated that a statement had been made that i had seen the SW in the local town, and threatened her. Easy one that, They couldn't even produce the picture, and i told them to search CCTV as i had never been to the town they mentioned, but i was willing to go to court and i would invite every journalist i could to let them know the police had failed to investigate DD's alleged abuse, but had arrested me on someone elses' say so. The one PO was very understanding and laughed often, telling me he could see what had happened. I still have the tape, lol. So they could do nothing, but kept me in until bailing me without conditions at 4 am. When i had work the following morning.

A week later i went back in to re-make the request that someone from CP see my DD to put my mind at rest. As i sat waiting, an officer (the one from the keep safe group, funnily enough) came down on her own, pressed her nose against my forehead, and hissed at me, if i didn't leave it alone, i would be sorry, and last weeks' arrest would be the first in a long line. When the other PO walked in, she said, 'Understand?' and then to him, 'I've had my word, thanks'

Eventually i got the 'no further action being taken' line but was absolutely fuming still about the actions of the police.

This part is in my other post, where i make reference to what happened Because the other one is heavy reading, sorry about that.

babybarrister Wed 10-Oct-12 07:33:10

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight Wed 10-Oct-12 15:35:58

Thank you, babybarrister thanks

ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight Wed 10-Oct-12 15:50:53

Argh he's in london sad i'll phone, maybe he can recommend someone closer x

babybarrister Wed 10-Oct-12 16:49:49

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight Wed 10-Oct-12 17:50:27

Good, i have all the paperwork still, and my own complaints plus the paperwork from a DPA request that should be enough for him to go on.
I hope he can help.
Do you know if i would have to apply for leave to disclose the relevant paperwork to him?

ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight Wed 10-Oct-12 17:52:25

IMO the role of the social services is the pastoral care and protection of children, and supporting their families....they are NOT police officers, and they should not be in the position of deciding whether or not a crime has taken place, that is a job for the police. So i'm positive they did wrong by not informing the police x

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