Me and my DP have a little girl 20 mnths and he has a son from a previous relationship. He was made redundant last year and since then has been a stay at home dad to our little girl whilst I have gone back to work. We have been having some issues with the CSA claiming there are massive arrears on his account and demanding payment. We are not disputing there are monies owing because he withheld payments until his ex allowed him access, which we got via a court order last year. However there is a serious discrepancy between what they say he owes and what we have calculated he owes based on the fact that he hasn't worked for over a year. Now my salary is the only money we have coming in and although we are not on the breadline we do get to the end of the month with nothing left. I am also spending close to £200 a month for my DP to see his son as he has to do a 6 hour drive to the other side of the country twice a weekend every month. Now in a phone call yesterday the CSA asked my DP to ask me to start making contributions to his child support arrears because he isn't earning anything at them moment. I was aware that being with DP meant the his son would be part of our lives which I was happy with but AIBU to feel aggrieved now I am not only paying for him to see his son but now I am being expected to pay his child support at the detriment to my own daughter? I worry what happens if he and I ever separate. I am spending hundreds of pounds on a child that isn't mine. I feel a bit selfish thinking this way but although i love the amn to bits, his son is not my responsibility. What do other people think?
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CouthyMowWearingOrange ·
14/09/2012 16:38
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