Wow this is very hard for me to write but I feel I need all the help I can get. When I was 17 I fell pregnant and had a daughter I married her father 2 years later and we then had a son. A year later we divorced and because I had no where to live I left my 2 children in his care and had regular contact. 6 months later he stopped contact and made threats that if I tried contacting him he would do me for harassment, so as much as it broke my heart I stayed away. He and his parents have always had money and he had a great support network I was on my own with nothing and felt very intimated by him and his family. Now 11 years and 8 months have gone by and my daughter will be 15 this year. She has recently made contact with me via facebook and has lots of questions that needs answering and i feel she deserves the answers. I am not wanting to go over the past and blame her father I am just simply wanting to reestablish contact with my children. Her father has now messaged me saying if i contact her or him again he will do me for harassment and emotional blackmail and abuse of a minor. I have asked him to keep me informed of their schooling and health issues to which he is refusing. He is also refusing to provide me with any details for me to pass on to the mediation service to arrange things legally. I understand why he doesn't want to give me his address details but there is no reason why he cant provide me with either his solicitors details or a suitable address where he can collect the post. He is saying I have to wait until he deems it suitable for me to have contact with the children if he ever deems it suitable. I do not want her to suffer anymore than she has it breaks my heart when she messages me and I cannot respond as she will be thinking I have left her again. What can I do? As a mother I will totally understand how some will feel about this and any abuse i get i know I deserve. I am just trying to correct the biggest mistake of my life.
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