My Partner is representing himself and so really was looking for someones honest opinion please
Thre is a lot of history, most of which would bore you to tears! However i guess it would help to explain that his ex is very clever at manipulating the system to get what she wants, has done many times. she is arrested from time to time for violence and just abuses people over facebook, the amount of nasty messages ive had or my family from her and her sister. The most recent arrest at end of last year resulted in a child protection meeting, considering putting the children on the at risk register, this arrest had nothing to do with my partner. Her sister also tries intimidating by following me in my car sitting really close flashing her lights etc.
10 weeks ago they had mediation judge ordered a witness statement and her legal aid to pay for hair strand tests and them to start application to contact centre as been few months since partner seen the kids. They didnt do anything untill literally the day before court. the witness statement was full of false information and this information was really bad and could of had an impact on the contact my partner got so we provided a response attaching evidence. it wasnt tit for tat and making allegations about her just correcting her lies. (his witness statement was all based on the children and didnt really go in to details of their history and slating her) Her solicitor wrote to the court to apologise for the delay insisting that this wasnt intentional to delay contact and her client wishes for my partner to see the children. although we all know she thought no contact would happen till test and contact centre place ready and they quoted it could take 10 weeks.
The judge wasnt interested in her claims and at the first hearing awarded him contact, supervised by someone until the place at contact centre ready and tests done so it could move to him and the kids away from centre. Her sister agreed to do the supervising.
Since court (and this is really the advice i need) that same afternoon both his ex and her sister have been slating us all over facebook, using foul nasty words, referring to my partner as just a sperm doner who aint gonna get anywhere near the kids and making comments about whacking me and doing me in including a whole lot more plus his sister has commented that she might pull out as a third party and there aint nothing anyone can do about it.
Is there anything we can do or should we just forget we've seen it (a number of mutual friends were disgusted when they read it and told us about it) We are aware that we always have to be one step ahead of her with evidence as she will just say and do anything (for example in her statement she lied she gets no financial support but he pays from his wages thru CSA so can prove it but she still lied thinking she would just be believed)
We thought maybe sending a letter to her solicitor politely asking her to remind her client that these sorts of comments are unexceptable and how saddened my partner was to read her reffering to him as a sperm doner etc and maybe remind her why we are at court which is for what is best for the children and put the point accross that the sister is threatening to pull out etc. We wouldnt send to court but if then they mess around with contact like they have last 10 weeks and previously my partner can mention it to the court with the letter at the next hearing???
Or are we just being to sensitive and should just leave it let them get on with their nasty threats and comments and deal with it at court in 3 months? we just know if it was the other way round her solicitor would be sending a letter to us or police at our door!!!
So sorry its long but were really not sure what to do. any honest opinions will be really appreciated thank you!!
Thanks x
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Advice from someone in the know would be great :)
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smiler01 · 20/07/2012 11:55
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