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EX withdrawing his application to vary contact order

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Stressed74 Sun 07-Aug-11 18:55:00

I have recieved letter from Ex solicitor saying that he is withdrawing his application and I have 7 days to respond as to wether or not I object. I dont know if I should object and let it got to final hearing. He has told DD,12, that he thinks she has been put through enough stress and she can do what she wants, as she is still refusing point blank to see him.
I am concerned that this started in Feb and he has done lots of damage to his relationship with his daughter but its all my fault!
Can I object on the basis as its gone on for so long and the final hearing is in 5 weeks that it would be best to get things over and done with so that people can move on. Does his withdrawal mean that it reverts back to contact order 2005, even though he has told DD he is happy for no contact order to be in place and she can do what she wants?
I am concerned that it will all start again and do not want daughter to have any more upset in her life.
Can I ask the court to order that he does not interfere with passports etc as we have booked a holiday for her and he has laready once managed to stop a passport and get a new one without my knowledge or agreement?

Not sure what to do next???? HELP

RandomMess Sun 07-Aug-11 18:57:30

No idea

Worth paying to speak to a specialist solicitor?

Collaborate Mon 08-Aug-11 00:55:45

You need to get it in for a half hour hearing. You want just an order saying that there shall be as much contact as your daughter requests. It won't then revert to the previous order.
Congrats by the way.

ZillionChocolate Tue 09-Aug-11 12:55:35

If the current order doesn't reflect what it is agreed should be happening, then the order ought to be changed. Don't just sit on it though. If you've been allocated a day of the Court's time that you don't need, it could go to someone who does need it. Tell his solicitor what you want.

cestlavielife Fri 12-Aug-11 14:39:38

that is good! collaborate's advice sounds sound

Tyr Sun 14-Aug-11 16:33:32

With all due respect to Collaborate, I'm not sure why congratulations are in order. I've probably missed other posts with the full story?
A 12 yr old girl refusing to see her father is not something anyone should derive any sense of satisfaction from. What are the reasons?
At 12 yrs old, her wishes and feelings will be determinant and that is probably why he is withdrawing the application.
The previous order will stand unless it is varied but that is a moot point if your daughter is refusing to see him.
Is there a CAFCASS report? Does your daughter have a Guardian Ad Litem?

Collaborate Sun 14-Aug-11 22:08:52

You have missed the full story. Never a happy story, but the right outcome.

RandomMess Sun 14-Aug-11 22:17:25

Hope you got it sorted Stressed, whole situation is such a nightmare for your dd sad

Stressed74 Mon 29-Aug-11 02:36:09

Tyr...DD father has said he is withdrawing his application after 6 months...DD has refused point blank and still is to go and see him.

He sent DD a text message saying she "can do what the hell she wants and its clear that she no longer loves him"... Which tbh i thought was slightly out of order.

He sends her a text, if shes lucky, once a week.

I have tried in vain, caused arguments between DD and myself because I keep going on at her, apparently, but nothing is working! I even sorted out fathers day so he wasnt upset.

CAFCASS have been involved, and were called to go to final hearing in Sept, as EXH somehow thought they were wrong...

Hopefully, one day, DD will calm down and forgive him for what he put her through these last 7 months but ntil then i will encourage her not to shut the door completely and always keep it open...

babybarrister Mon 29-Aug-11 09:07:51

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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