I ended the very short, rocky relationship I had with my sons father before I knew I was pregnant. When I found out and told him, he wanted to get back together. He is unstable - I didnt want to. He said he wasnt interested in being the father and cut me off.
He got in touch just before I had DS saying he wanted to be involved.
He wanted the surname to be his - thats the way its done in his country.
I said no, we arent married or in a relationship. He said if I didnt do exactly as he wants that he would drag me through the courts and said "I can get legal aid, you cant"..
I stood my ground, didnt make the surname his nor put him on the birth certificate.
I have always given him access, but at 3 months it all blew up, because he wanted DS with unsupervised access (to take and show his friends).
There are many reason I did not want this, trust issues, his unstable character and his irresponsibility.
He has said to me that there would be fire at my door, threatened court loads, and all of these cryptic threats, including taking him to his home country.
It all peaked at one point when he said to expect a solicitors letter, which didnt come through.. He then cut off for a bit, then was back visiting when DS was 6 months. DS was really nervous of him as he was very hands on, and was crying.
He has said that he asked his doctor, who apparently told him the only reason a baby that age cries is because its not being fed (making out I am being sly and making DS cry on that visit)
DS is now nearly 8 months and he is going on again about court and wanting to have unsupervised access..
I am giving him 3 hours a week, at my flat.
Can he take me to court for parental responsibility?
I saw citizens advice who said not to worry, that it usually comes with getting access rights in court.. But he is sending me all this stuff saying that legal aid have taken him on, this is his case number etc etc.. I dont know if he is bullshitting (he does a lot of that to try and bully me into things)..
Sorry this is so long!!
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dancingboro · 22/07/2011 21:02
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