My husband and I are thinking about him becoming a stay-at-home dad whilst I go back to full-time work. He's throughly miserable at his job whereas I really miss mine! We're trying to work out whether it would be financially viable and I was wondering what the rules are on Child Support? My husband has a 5 year old son from a previous marriage - he's never missed a support payment and we're lucky enough to have a good relationship with his ex and her partner.
Would I be legally obliged as the main bread-winner to cover his child support payments the same rate? His ex is in a very stable financial position - Her overall household income is much more than ours however she's not married to her partner (who brings in the majority of money).
Even if I'm not legally obliged we have every intention of making a decent contributory payment although I might not be able to pay as much as he does on my wage... I don't want to risk souring the relationship with his ex at all so I thought I should find out more before we make a decision or approach her.
You will have no legal responsibiity to do so. But in reality of course you will be contributing (over and above what you are planning to voluntarily contribute to the ex), because of course when the child is in your home you will be 100% providing for the child's needs financially.
Yes your DH will not be contributing financially, but as others have said, he will have the opportunity to contribute more in other ways. That imo is the same situation as a mother who goes on to have more children and gives up work.
Thanks for the comments everyone. We have a DD of our own and we're very much hoping that his son will be able to spend more time with us as DH is desperate to be a more involved father. At the moment his job means that we live about 1.5 hours south of his son, whereas my job is about 40 mins north. By moving closer to my work DH will be in a position where he could offer much more of his time (at the moment he works shifts so we're restricted to w-ends when he gets them, school holidays or we try and drive up once a week to spend the evening together). Here's hoping we can off-set some of the financial investment with time!
Bit unfair that his income will have to provide for her children if/when she moves in, but her income doesn't get taken into account the other way round IYSWIM.
Never mind. I don't need it. I had sense to protect my assets before I left so consequently in a FAR FAR better position than him financially even though I am not working. Not that that will always be the case.
Dh was a stay at home dad after dd1 was born and i returned to work, he has 3 other children (with ex), he didn't have to pay anything as he was not working and my wages were not considered. It is confusing and maybe wrong . We still offered ex wife money to help with clothing, school trips ect which came from what i was earning (but we didn't have too).