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Help with how to handle exh lying and his solicitor

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LizaTarbucksAuntie Wed 01-Jun-11 14:16:22

Help please,

I'm self repping in a long and bitter (the best kind right?) residency battle.

We're currently drafting a court order and my exh sol is downright lying about the agreements we reached in court he is going back on everything. In court Judge seemed pretty much to be taking everything she says as gospel despite there being huge holes in their stories which keep changing....

Any advice on how to handle the solicitor please?

Thanks in advance

scurryfunge Wed 01-Jun-11 14:20:26

Bullet point the inconsistencies and evidence them (backing up with witnesses and documents). Where are the original agreements documented? You must be able to refer to them.

LizaTarbucksAuntie Wed 01-Jun-11 14:34:04

hmmm, this was agreements made prior going in to see The Judge at our last hearing. It's her word against mine and basically what's happened in my lying exh has changed his mind is reneging (sp sorry!) on the agreements and she is doing exactly what he pays her for.

She and I had the discussions verbally we both claim our notes are accurate (I KNOW mine are)

Oh and the f*ckers have delayed this draft by over a month in a bid to change the things they dont like <so cross I could cry! because I don't know how to fight them when they are just lying through their teeth>

LizaTarbucksAuntie Wed 01-Jun-11 14:34:46

<remembers manners>....oh and thanks by the way for replying.blush

slug Wed 01-Jun-11 14:38:29

Take up recording the conversations? Or maybe follow up each and every meeting with an email summarising the points. Then, at least you have a contemporus record of events.

scurryfunge Wed 01-Jun-11 14:41:16

Difficult then if it is your word against hers.sad

Can you tape record everything in future?

Someone with far more knowledge and suitable advice will post soon hopefully.
Good luck-keep at it.

LizaTarbucksAuntie Wed 01-Jun-11 14:49:37

Thanks, much appreciated I've already decided I'll inform him I will be recording all conversations in future so it's good to have that idea verified as well.

slug Wed 01-Jun-11 15:49:17

If the solicitor refuses to be recorded, make bullet point notes of the agreed actions at the end of each meeting and get the solicitor to sign it there and then.

LizaTarbucksAuntie Wed 01-Jun-11 16:09:47

Not sure they can refuse, I think I just have to inform them that I'm doing it? I've added it into the email I'm sending disputing the points. Just trying to pluck up the courage to send it now as I suspect I'm about to buy a shitstorm with this.

LizaTarbucksAuntie Wed 01-Jun-11 17:50:21

hopeful bump for anyone around.

I've sent the email detailing the points again now but I have no idea what my next steps should be.

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