Hi Long story (sorry) My daughter is nearly 2 years old my ex hasn't seen her since she was 3 weeks old (when he was sent to prison). I've received a C100 form in the post today for a hearing in June regarding contact. I have a restraining order against him for the next 2 years ordered by the court. What are his chances of getting contact. While I was pregnant he was in prison for harassing his ex and beating up her boyfriend. After I had the baby he was sent to prison for smashing up my house etc. When he was released he was charged with harassment and criminal damaged towards myself, property, car, parents. Breached his harassment order breached his bail conditions. He was given a restraining order, community service, alcohol treatment, probation, to pay compensation. He has never paid towards the baby, no xmas cards etc she hasn't a clue who he is as she hasn't seen him since she was 3 weeks old.
He may initially only get indirect contact, sending cards, presents and pictures so that you daughter gets a sense of family and who he is. Then if he shows commitment he may graduate to having direct contact for short periods supervised at a contact centre before gradually moving to unsupervised contact and eventually taking your daughter out for an hour or so. That wouldn't necessarily be every week.
Among the factors the courts will consider in awarding contact will be whether he accepts responsibility for his past behaviour, has done anything to address it and shows any remorse.
Thanks for your replys and advice. He's supposed to be doing a alcohol treatment plan through the courts and probation but often see pics of him on a certain social networking site pissed out of his head.
The C100 should outline what his intentions are as to the contact for example:
- 1 night per week rising to 2 - Contact every weekend on Saturday or Sunday between 9 and 3
If all what you say is true though its highlighy unlikely he will be granted a chance/reason to see her. Given his past a magistrate will definately consider these as being an impact (negatively?) on the child
it isnt going to look good for him - there are other ways to see your baby than smashing up things and causing criminal damage! i dont think you need to worry about his excuses for his behaviour....
but have a look at local contact centres in preparation as it may be that supervised contact is ordered - you could ask for supervised and recorded with a report going back to court on how things go before next steps . www.naccc.org.uk/
It says on the c100 from the court that my ex has tried mediation which i refused to participate with, the reason I refused mediation is because of the domestic abuse and threats he has mad towards me and the fact I have a restraining order against him. Will it look bad for me in court that I havn't tried mediation? or will the judge see that it is not appropriate.
went to court the other day, he turned up tracksuit, cap trainers and no solicitor. judge had to ask him to remove his cap and he has no representation which i think is a good thing hopefully he'll give up. were back at the end of the month he has to write a statement explaining his previous behaviour and why he opposes the name change