I guess I'm just feeling my way on this - I was so happy when I heard that my EX ds's father had emigrated to NZ and got married about 2.5 years ago.
I just thought that he'd be far enough away not to bother us And it explained the reason why the £500 pcm that the CSA were making him provide for us stopped
Since this though my current partner of 3.3 years has become a Student and is taking his Masters in Product Design after years and years of working in Brake development for a British car company which almost killed him due to the tedium. He's not been in engineering for nearly 3 years now.
My 20k per year does not cover our costs, I'm studying as well as working and we've reached a financial crisis.
To the point that in order for us to survive my mind keeps returning to the maintenance that exP has not paid and will not without my instigating a court order.
Part of me thinks we're well rid of a man unable to tell the truth, eager to run away from his mistakes and manipulative... ds does not need his values and is adored by my partner who in all but name and genetics is his daddy.
Would making him pay - and being a policeman I don't think he'd be able to get away with not paying - make him want 'a piece' of our lovely boy? How could I stay in control of his access to ds if it came to that?
I don't like having to even think about it but the shit's really hitting the fan financially here.
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Ex abroad no longer pays maintenance... Should I involve REMO now money is so tight at home?
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