Hi,
Quick background my dd is 11 my ex h and I split when she was 8 months old he saw her for about 18 months there was then a break of 3 years where he stopped contact. I initiated contact again and since then himself and his wife have seen dd 3 times a year for a total of approx 25 days. This all takes place just on my say so although have always been totally flexible and told them they can have her whenever and for however long they choose to only see her for these times.She has just come back saying that she wants to see what it is like living there.I obviously don't think this is best for her and it would mean her losing contact with all her parental family as he does not speak to them and she currently sees or speaks to grand parents and aunties etc at least once a month.Sorry to ramble but my brain is swimming and my heart is breaking but my question is do I have to let her go? Also just 5 weeks ago she didn't want to go and was threatening to take an empty case with her to prove a point as he pays nothing towards her upkeep.It feels like she has been brain washed and I am suddenly the bad guy.
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