Difference from 4 to 5?

[tootsweets]

I have 4 children with 2 years between each all planned. We have a 3 bedroomed house and i have been a sahm for the past 2 years. When my last dc was born a year ago I thought that was it, we could move on past the baby stage and enjoy our lovely children. But I now feel I would like one more child. I think my age has a lot to do with it as I am 36 and would also like to keep to the two years age gap if possible. It feels like now or never.
So those of you with 5 or more advice please! Is it possible in a 3 bed house? Is 5 much different to 4? All experiences welcome!

[4andnotout]

I shall watch this thead with interest as we are in exactly the same position

[tootsweets]

Glad I am not the only crazy one!!

[4andnotout]

No we are glutton for punishment too

[browny]

I have five children but we converted our loft to make a fourth bedroom years ago, my two girls share a room and my two boys share as well. Our dd3 has her own little room.

I've found having one more a joy, my other children love her to bits and help to look after her and play with her...they can be bickering like mad and then dd3 comes to them for a cuddle and all is right in the world again .

Oh btw, I had three under three and a half at one stage, then when ds1 was four I had my ds2 and when he was four I had our dd3.

Big tip, get a steam generated iron if you already don't have one! lol!

[Diege]

Another one who is also watching this thread with interest! I have 4 (8,7,4,9 mths) and think my age may also have something to do with it (40 in May). Very inspired by BROWNY's post

[tootsweets]

Yes Browny's post makes it seem very possible!

[hollyfort]

watchin with interest too!! have four under 7, it's the washin that gets to me, endless!! i have one dd and then 3 boys, would love a little sis for dd, but a healthy boy would be equally welcome, there is just under two years between all mine but if i go again it won't be til ds 3 is nearly two cos i got postnatal depression after this babs and am very overweight at the mo

[largeginandtonic]

An iron! Are you MAD.

I gave up ironing at leaast 3 children ago

I have 7. Barely noticed 4-5 tbh. The children were all well versed in new babies.

They enjoy more as they get older. More hands on with the babies. They all love the babies and it is so sweet to see them get excited to see each other after school etc..

Go on

[4andnotout]

The washing is my biggest bugbear of a large family too!! I have 4 dd's who are 8,4,2,17mo.
We found out today that we are likely to be staying in our 3 bed house for the forseable future so will have to have a think about where we could make room for another if we went ahead. We do have a fair bit of living space and they rarely use their bedrooms during the day atm so i keep convincing myself it would all be fine

[4andnotout]

I no longer iron either, the linen line gets it fairly crease free imho

[4andnotout]

I can hear your ovaries from here Lockets

[Diege]

I can also hear a faint squeeking noise - oh yes, LOCKET's ovaries, obviously
Hi LG&T - you have found my guilty hang-out . I have 3 dds and a ds (ds the youngest) and the thing that's putting me off if I'm honest is the hyperemesis I suffered with all 4. Not that this put me off having no.s 1-4, but still....Or maybe making excuses for myself? Arghh, I don't know...

[tootsweets]

If Lockets ovaries are squeaking mine are clanging!!
Two obstacles for me other than the obvious space and money.

Number 1 dh is a little anxious about having a potential 5th dd

Number 2 I am a little anxious about having a 5th C-section

[tootsweets]

Just to say dh loves our 4dds just feels a bit outnumbered!!

[Diege]

Ah but then TOOTS you get the 'got your boy in the end then!' comments as we did when ds was born afetr 3 dds Almost makes me go for no.5 just to see the look on their faces . 'Almost' I said...

[imnotadaughter]

NOOOOOO dont get afith child in a three bedroomed house that is abig failur ihave four children and we also have a three bedroomed house and its adisaster its ok when the children are small but when they get bigger its gonna be a real problem. My children were totaly ok when they were todlers bute now my dd1 is 13 and my ds1 is 12 and they keep fighting about stuff we want to move soon and we hope it will get better now its not that bad but just wait till they get bigger if you want 5 children move into a bigger house!:D

[imnotadaughter]

oh and my children are fighting about rooms. but if you have another big room then you can convert it into 2 rooms and then problem solved oh and igot all this advice from my dd1.She sometimes gives me advice.

[fidelma]

Diege I am finally done at 4 and I so wasn,t on this thread !!!! No honestly done.I had hyperemmisis twice with the girls and bad bad morning all day sickness with the boys.I never want to do that again.Don't mind giving birth again LOL

[sweetkitty]

at who has turned up on this thread

lockets and diege

I am about 5 weeks away from no4, like you two I have "finally got my boy" grrrr

Definitely my last, so definite it's not even funny. I cannot cope with being pregnant again I am far too olds for it now.

Am currently planning an extension although the thought of living through it is putting me off but we should if we are lucky and get persmission be able to give them all a bedroom each albeit two boxrooms, that should help my sanity in years to come.

[jellybeans]

I have 3 beds but all rooms quite big. Have 5 kids. 2 girls share, 2 boys share, baby with us. Works fine (oldest teenage). I find 5 quite abit harder than 4 but #5 has high needs. I don't regret it though and think you should go for it if you feel that way!!!

[tootsweets]

Would love to go for it but am a bit scared! Worried about other people's reactions too as they have all assumed we have completed our family.

[Diege]

SWEETKITTY I too said that about no.4 being my last - absolutely, resolutely definite, almost releived that the broodiness tap had been turned off...and then one day it started dripping again...and I am A LOT older than you
TOOTS, you know, what you said about people's reactions is so true - I am even worried about what my midwife would say (not exactly a charm school graduate), let alone work and mum etc . But can you imagine getting to 60 and thinking we didn;t have that extra one because we were worried about 'what people would say'???

JELLY, sound a good set up there...hmm, we have 4 bds, dds 1&2 share (through choice), so any addition could go in with either dd3 or ds, depending on sex...Just thinking aloud...Let me know if anyone wants to start up a ttc-no.5 thread in Conception

[sorky]

Diege you are utterly BONKERS!

I have happily waved Dh off to the docs to ensure there is not a Sorky no5.

When no4 got to 11mo I did wonder if I'd done the right thing, but the moment passed swiftly when I happened to open the Futility room and see all the laundry!

[Diege]

SORKY I think part of the problem is The New House - futility room now in part of outbuilding, so out of sight and all that..
I think too that the big 40 in May has something to do with all of this deliberating...Plus dh is keen .I think it's (ttc-ing)the only time he actually get any action iyswim Very short-sighted of him I know...