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Childbirth the fourth time.....really worried

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Zola78 · 28/09/2009 13:23

I have given birth to 3 ds and I wasn't at all scared . Well not as scared as I am right now. I am pertified. My last birth was at home (unplanned) with just my dh and the midwife and ambulance turned up afterwards. I'm sure this has some bearing on how I feel. But aside from that I'm not sure I can deal with the pain etc.

Has anyone else experienced this panic? If so how did you over come it? I've got 2 weeks and 6 days to go

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MillyMollyMoo · 28/09/2009 14:04

I think everyone hits that OMG it's got to come out through my tiny little fanny stage don't they.
Hypnobirthing was the answer for me, buy the Mongan method on amazon and listen to it every night to keep you nice and calm and in a happy baby place.

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liahgen · 28/09/2009 21:35

tiny little fanny ?

that's a laugh after 5 large dc's.

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lljkk · 11/10/2009 17:36

Stick fingers in ears, hide head in sand, sing lalalalalalaaa very loudly....

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FreddoBaggyMac · 15/10/2009 18:41

I had my 4th DC about 5 months ago and was in just the same position as you - completely terrified. I think it's partly because I knew i had my other DC's all depending on me being OK...

Happily I can honestly say the birth was completely brilliant (never ever thought I'd say that about giving birth!) 30 minute labour from start to finish and no pain at all just massive urges to push from 1st contraction onwards!!

Take comfort in the fact that your body knows exactly what to do and has had lots of practice, and also if the baby does come quickly it is very very unlikely there will be any problems. A good tip that worked for me is to lie on your left side and breath as hard as you can through contractions if you want to stop yourself pushing until someone arrives!! Also, your body will deal with any pain that there is when it comes - imagining dealing with it is far harder than actually doing it! You don't need to deal with it now so your body isn't giving you the resources (and hormones!) to cope, but when the time comes it will.

My advice is to just keep imagining the best birth you possibly can, and to think about looking at your baby's face for the first time (awww I want to do it all again now )

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elvislives · 15/10/2009 21:35

My fifth is 2.7 yo. In the last month or so of pregnancy I got more and more panicky about the thought of giving birth. I think the problem is that you remember how much it hurts by that stage. In my case DD turned breech at 37 weeks and I ended up with an elective CS, so didn't have to go through it again (bit drastic )

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largeginandtonic · 15/10/2009 21:43

My 7th is 9 months old. I was almost excited togive birth in the end. I suppose anything is preferable to being pregnant!

It was fine, 2 hourish labour. At home, planned.

My 4th and 5th were home too, all fine

Don't worry and just think about the gorgeous snuggly new born you will have soon.

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sweetkitty · 15/10/2009 21:47

I'm only just pregnant with DB4 and already am panicking about the birth, DD3 was 1h35m start to finish, planned HB but very painful. I am scared that it will be so fast that DP won't be here and I will be alone with the DDs.

On the other hand we have done it before know what's coming and know that are bodies can do it.

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Zola78 · 17/10/2009 16:33

I'm happy to report that I gave birth to a health little girl on thursday evening. She weighed in at 7lbs 14oz. The labour lasted 2 1/2 hours but it wasn't really painful until the last 30 minutes or so.

I'm glad it's over and still can't believe I did it again. I think that the body is amazing, it's ability to cope. Although I hope to never do it again, I can honestly say it wasn't that bad.

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FreddoBaggyMac · 18/10/2009 09:01

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

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largeginandtonic · 18/10/2009 10:34

How lovely

Well done you. Our bodies are pretty cool. It never ceases to amaze me.

Sweetkitty Congratulations to you too, i had no idea!

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sweetkitty · 18/10/2009 10:43

Congratulations well done you

I saw the MW about my booking in appt and she was a bit hesitant about another homebirth due to increased risk of PPH.

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largeginandtonic · 18/10/2009 17:55

SweetKitty dd2 #7 was at home. I had the same thing but said nooooo way to a hospital birth.

I would never have made it anyway!

Good luck

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shabbapinkfrog · 18/10/2009 18:07

Congratulations!!!

small hijack G&T how the devil are you? Missed you on the multiples xxx