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Did you regret having a third?

17 replies

tiredandveryhungry · 15/03/2021 16:56

If you have 3 children, do you wish you'd stopped at 2? If so, why?

Really struggling to decide whether to try for another baby and would appreciate any thoughts on this!

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Larryslockdownlunch · 15/03/2021 17:00

No regrets. Went on to have a 4th and 5th too. 3 is a lovely number though.

Someone will be along to tell you that the world is set up for families of 4 or no one needs to a 3rd child because of climate change etc etc.

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Passthewinebottle · 15/03/2021 17:00

Oh god 100% no regrets. She completed us. We were like you though, really unsure, but I fell pregnant by accident that time (we were only using the withdrawal method!) so it took the decision away. We all utterly adore her, her 2 sisters included (she's 7 now) & three just works so well for us.

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poshme · 15/03/2021 17:13

We'd planned more but stopped at 3 because my SPD got very bad during 3rd pregnancy and I could barely walk.

Other than that, no regrets about 3.

(Apart form the cost of booking holidays!)

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WeakAsIAm · 15/03/2021 17:18

Nope no regrets, not ever.

Love him to pieces and his brothers too, would not change a thing about any of them.

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jellybe · 15/03/2021 17:35

No. He was a surprise - we had talked about maybe having more but had pretty much settled on just having two and then I fell pregnant unexpectedly and it was the best thing for our family. Number three has really rounded our family off he is like the piece that was missing and I love having three.

I don't think I'd regret staying at two but definitely didn't regret having three it's a beautiful jumble of noise and madness and things always happening.

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tiredandveryhungry · 15/03/2021 20:31

Thanks for the replies. Really good to hear positive stories! Now to convince DH...

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sweetkitty · 15/03/2021 20:33

Absolutely not our third baby was an absolute joy so easy as a baby and toddler, she convinced as to go for number 4 Grin

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WombOfOnesOwn · 16/03/2021 06:53

My third baby is an absolute joy, he's 6 months now. Really feel like I'm getting the hang of this parenting thing, thinking I'll go for #4!

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Lilice · 19/03/2021 14:24

Couldn't imagine life without my third, she's amazing. So amazing I'm tempted to go for number 4

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autumnboys · 19/03/2021 14:45

It’s true that the world is set up for families of four, but you get used to that. You get to know the pubs where they can squeeze five round a table for Sunday lunch, or you learn to book ahead.

Number three completed us. It’s chaos, in the nicest way, when they’re littler. He wasn’t a good sleeper and I was knackered! But they’re teens and preteen now and I wouldn’t change it for anything.

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goldenlady25 · 19/03/2021 14:49

No third is the light of my life and we were both more relaxed third time. Had 3 in 4yrs

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Habbyhadno · 19/03/2021 14:49

No, I love having three.

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Crazymummyto4 · 01/04/2021 01:23

Not at all in the slightest, in fact we enjoyed our third baby so much that we had baby number 4 six months ago! We love having a big family and have absolutely no regrets.

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Sstrongtn · 01/04/2021 01:27

It’s harder not going to lie, and I’m a single parent. But absolutely not, she’s a dream, they are a little team and it’ll be wonderful for them to have sisters to grow up with and support them when they are older (I am one of four).

So no, zero regrets she’s amazing.

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11plusNewbie · 30/04/2021 21:44

No regrets at all, would keep going if it wasn’t age/money. Go for it !

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4Minions2CallMyOwn · 30/04/2021 21:49

When I imagined my life I always wanted a girl and then boy and thought I would be completed. But in actuality I didn’t feel complete at all which really shocked me. I yearned for another and once my son was born I just felt like I was done and knew it if that makes sense.

We’ve now decided to have more though, so I’m currently carrying out 5th! Best decision we’ve ever made and definitely no regrets!

Good luck convincing DH- if you’re feeling this uncertain then you are probably meant to be a Mummy to 3 Smile

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Hirewiredays · 03/05/2021 20:57

Had third last year and she has fitted right in with her brothers. It's all just a joy and I feel so completed with 3. We're done and husband had the snip end of last year.

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