Hiya,
I'm just asking for some real honest advice. No judgement at all.
We have two beautiful babies, 2yr old and 5months old. We always said we wanted three children (hubby wanted four but agreed on three).
I found the initial transition from 1 child to 2 really hard. The first 3 months just took the life out of me. We are settled now and I absolutely love how it is but it did really put me off having anymore.
Hubby still really wants a third but I'm reluctant - only because I'm worried that I won't cope. A few things I think could make life just so much harder:
The expense
How would I fit 3 in a car?
I can only hold two hands
What state will my body be in after a third?
Will we have anytime as a couple?
Childcare and babysitting
How will my other two feel having another sibling?
How will I split my time?
I do want another, I love the idea of a bigger family, not only in these young years but also when they are older. More of them to look after each other. I just have one other sibling and have always thought I would have liked another just for the times when we've fallen out - there's another sibling to cast an opinion or help square things out. Also, it would be nice for my parents to have more help from another sibling if that makes sense (my brother is useless lol).
So I guess I'm asking those with 3 kids - do you regret it? Is it much harder? What age gaps? What would you do differently? Was the third planned and why?
Such a misconception about 3 kids - everyone feels sorry for the middle child but why?? They are just as loved aren't they? Do they really feel the "middle child syndrome"?
Thanks in advance
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Vialarooski · 19/01/2021 19:54
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