Hi mums. I’m after some collective wisdom, advice, or just plain experiences I guess. I’m happily married mum to two boys, aged 3.5 and 15 months. Our hands are full but they are lovely and fun and wonderful and I just adore them. But I’ve always wanted three kids and I’m torn on whether to try for DC3. DP didn’t outright say no, but it’s clear that he’s less enthusiastic than me. I have the usual worries - expenses, enough attention, the world seems set up for families of 4, cost of holiday, not having family nearby, etc. But I just can’t shake this feeling that our family is not quite complete, and it breaks my heart to think I’ll never get to meet another one of my babies. Both DP and I have demanding full time jobs, so going back to the baby stage also feels a bit difficult to balance it all. And I can juuuust barely see a light at the end of the tunnel with sleep, nappies, and being able to do fun things as a family (if COVID would ever go away!)
The biggest problem - time is not on our side. I’m 43 now and would likely be 44 if DC3 did come along. Obviously there are higher risks at our age too.
Does the yearning ever go away? Did you regret having /not having a third? Any words of wisdom to settle my heart?
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Toeberries · 14/01/2021 22:11
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