Hello,
Let me start by saying I have beautiful girls 6yrs, 4yrs, 1yr and over the years any worries, problems and questions I’ve had Mumsnet is my first stop.
I’ve scoured the internet looking for anything to relate and tried to educate myself, I now feel the need to post a question here.
I have 3 daughters and I’m 4 weeks pregnant with an unplanned 4th. We live in a 3 bedroom house with 2 good sized rooms, 1 quite small bedroom. My oldest girls (6 and 4) share a room, baby (1) is in the small room. There really wouldn’t be much room for another baby here, not in the long run.
We are already planning to move house but we are not in a position, moneywise for this to happen. A few more years... My husband has a great job, we have been lucky through Covid and he can work from home in a downstairs garage conversion (mostly the reason we are now in debt is due to converting garage)
That’s a bit of history - now for the problem. I don’t know if having a 4th will be a good idea. I also don’t know if I can have an abortion. I’m pro choice, I just don’t know if I will regret and feel guilty having an abortion in years to come. On the other hand I’m feeling guilty for thinking about keeping baby. I don’t want my girls to survive, I want them to thrive. We are already stretched money wise, space wise and energy wise.
I’m a stay at home mum, I would have been looking a going back to work once two youngest are in school and nursery. This unplanned baby will obviously set us back a few years. We had just started to see the glimpse of the future, having some husband and wife time (which got us in this problem in the first place!) I did take emergency contraceptive the morning after but it was too late.
I know I am the only one who can answer, but any positive unplanned baby stories, any positive pro choice stories... positive is not the right word, as it’s a sad situation to be in but I hope you understand my meaning. I wish I wasn’t in this position but there is no going back. I have two routes to go down. Any help to come to a decision would be great.
Sorry it’s so long. Just to add my husband is supportive either way. He said we can make it work but also that we have a great life why rock the boat.
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Unplanned 4th pregnancy, riddled with guilt. To keep or to terminate pregnancy
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Optimisticmumofthree · 13/10/2020 06:58
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