we are a normal working class family, partner works 40hrs a week and I work 30 hours. We get child benefit but not tax credits. I think we’d probably get childcare cost help but don’t need it as I work my job around the children.
We have a 3 bedroom hose but will possibly extend to make it a 5 bed (next year)
We have 4 children and I’m currently pregnant. The 2 eldest share (15 and 12) happily at the moment and the 2 youngest share too. (5 and 4). The bedrooms aren’t a massive issue just something I’d like to can get sorted so my eldest gets some privacy.
It’s more to do with activities and general life.
My eldest is in a football team and trains once a week then plays a match once a week, he’s also member of the gym and goes a few times a week. (He recently quit gymnastics and cadets)
My middle one is also a member of a football team, training and playing each week. He ask goes to Scouts and plays hockey and basketball for school (we support this but don’t have to pay).
The youngest 2 have violin lessons, swimming lessons and play football but once a week just for fun. They are on the Beavers waiting list.
The older 2 have both had swimming, music, trampolining, martial art and gymnastic lessons over time which they’ve completed or given up at some point.
This baby will have the same opportunities as their siblings but lots of people have commented on the cost of a big family. We also spend time at home playing board games, eating together and family walks and family days. We tend to go on camping holidays mainly but have also been abroad most years.
Im not sure if it’s my hormones but I’m now wondering if it’s enough and getting quite upset by the comments. My children are loved and supported through life. Yes they share bedrooms but i think we give them the best life we can with what we earn and can afford. I do sometimes go without so the children can do Extras like residentials at school and this doesn’t bother me at all. Hoping this is all hormonal as it’s making me feel really down recently.
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Is this enough?
Kezmum14 · 07/03/2020 07:43
It sounds like your kids are loved, supported and have a lot of opportunities.
We live a similar lifestyle, though we earn more than your family at the moment. We have three kids under 10 and another on the way, and we go camping a few times in the summer, the kids do one music lesson and Cubs each week, we eat out as a family a few times a month.
I just can't bring myself to spend £4K on a weeks holiday to the Canaries in October. Yes, they'd have a blast and we could afford it, but they don't need it. I'd rather keep it in the bank and spend it on what they need as they get older.
As long as your kids are happy, keep doing what's right for your family 
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