AIBU

[RubyG3112]

I have a new baby and we have come to stay with my in laws for a week (they live in another country) as they don't get to see the baby as often as my family I know it's important for him (as well as my husband and in-laws) that they get to spend time together. Naturally my MIL wants to feed him and cuddle him, and I hate to admit it, but it makes me feel so irritated watching her kiss all over him and try and comfort him when he's crying.

It's so annoying when she undermines me, for example she's feeding him now and she said 'we'll just give him a little bit to settle him,' and I said 'I try not to give him little bits here and there, otherwise he wakes up constantly wanting a little bit,' So she says to the baby 'I know it's not what you want, I know it's too much for you, but I'll have to get it down you, I know you don't want it,' then he sobs and sobs and I want to take him and she's saying 'oh that's a wind cry' but I know he's just tired and wants his mum!!

But there is already tension between my husband and I as I was quite snappy (for good reason) when his mum came to stay with us the day after I left hospital with him, so I don't want to make it worse and it seems so petty and jealous but I want to snatch him out of her hands when she's kissing his face and rocking him to sleep. Part of me feels like I'm just being jealous and unreasonable and need to get a grip! And the other part of me wants to take him back and feed him myself!! Help!

[Brusselsprouts21]

You will get different opinions on this but I dont think shes being unreasonable. If hes not wanting the bottle then dont force the bottle. Little babies want to be fed little and often which is completely normal. When they get to about 3 months then start trying to establish a good feeding routine. I'm not saying your MIL shouldnt listen to you on most things as this is your baby but I don't think shes in the wrong. It's an emotional time but try to relax and enjoy your new baby and having people around you to help.